New Again Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 ...are or have been friends with your SO's family members? Just curious about others' thoughts and experiences being friends with siblings and so on of your gf/bf. Do you do it? How close do you get? Has it affected your relationship with your SO? Aftermath if/when you break up? Good idea? Bad idea?
V.Vixen Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I am still best friends with my Ex husband's sister! I love her to death. Obviously I am all for becoming friends with an SO's family. I also think it can make for fun times when you have family gatherings.
dreamergrl Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 ...are or have been friends with your SO's family members? Just curious about others' thoughts and experiences being friends with siblings and so on of your gf/bf. Do you do it? How close do you get? Has it affected your relationship with your SO? Aftermath if/when you break up? Good idea? Bad idea? I have been, and it depended on which ex lol. Most of the time though, after the break up, I lost the friends. Maybe not so much lost, but the connection suffered.
joseffrost Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 My ex's parents still called me at least once a week for a month and a half after the break up to see how I was doing. They even offered to take me to Nice for a weekend to cheer me up, but that was a bit too far...
Palmer253 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 In most of my cases I've either been friends with her family/friends or we didn't like each other at all. So between the two choices I'd much rather be friends with the people in her life. It's so uncomfortable when your at a family function or something and you can tell her family/friends don't like you. Besides if you have an arguement with her you know she's gonna talk to them about it and it's annoying when you know that everyone is telling her to get rid of you. It does make it extra tough though when you break up cause you're not just losing a SO but a bunch of friends as well. Yeah I don't really do the X's turning into friends. When we break up, I don't want anything to do with them.
Author New Again Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Interesting. I've never really been in a position to be friends with a bf's siblings. Obviously I want to get along with his family, and I always have. Current bf is the first chance I've had to be friends with siblings. And I am. (LOVE his sister!!) But I've been noticing lately she and people I've met through her are becoming a larger and larger part of my life!
dreamergrl Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Interesting. I've never really been in a position to be friends with a bf's siblings. Obviously I want to get along with his family, and I always have. Current bf is the first chance I've had to be friends with siblings. And I am. (LOVE his sister!!) But I've been noticing lately she and people I've met through her are becoming a larger and larger part of my life! I think it's great. Nothing wrong with expanding your friends.
Author New Again Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 I think it's great. Nothing wrong with expanding your friends. I think so too! But all I can think is, if we ever break up, can I keep her?? Just a new experience for me, curious as to outcomes and so on.
loveslife Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I have always gotten along well with bf's families. The mothers in particular tend to really like me. The only ones I've stayed in touch with is the one where I'm still friends with the guy.
Trialbyfire Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Keep her, if things don't work out! I just went for lunch not too long ago, with my ex-MIL and ex-SIL. We keep in touch since we were very fond of each other, while dating and married to my ex.
Author New Again Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Keep her, if things don't work out! I just went for lunch not too long ago, with my ex-MIL and ex-SIL. We keep in touch since we were very fond of each other, while dating and married to my ex. That's so sweet! I have to admit, I'm worried that if we broke up I wouldn't be able to remain friends with his sister. Well worried is an overstatement, but not sure of how that would work. So they aren't resentful that you two broke up? He doesn't have a problem with you all being in contact?
Trialbyfire Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 That's so sweet! I have to admit, I'm worried that if we broke up I wouldn't be able to remain friends with his sister. Well worried is an overstatement, but not sure of how that would work. So they aren't resentful that you two broke up? He doesn't have a problem with you all being in contact?Keep in mind that they sided with me when the infidelity happened, so that's part of it. And no, my ex and I are friends. It's almost incestuous, in that my fiance and I, have gone out for dinner with my ex and his date du jour!
alphamale Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 ...are or have been friends with your SO's family members? if i'm dating someone i will meet her family member but under no condition will i befriend them or have any other type of relaitonship with them. this is mainly because i end up leaving said woman within 3 to six months on average.
Author New Again Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 if i'm dating someone i will meet her family member but under no condition will i befriend them or have any other type of relaitonship with them. this is mainly because i end up leaving said woman within 3 to six months on average. Do you have siblings? Do they befriend your gfs ever?
alphamale Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Do you have siblings? yes... Do they befriend your gfs ever? no...
AlektraClementine Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I adore my fiance's brother. (no not in that way:eek:) And we're friends and close like family, but we typically don't hang out w/o the dude.
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 I adore my fiance's brother. (no not in that way:eek:) And we're friends and close like family, but we typically don't hang out w/o the dude. I probably wouldn't ever hang out with a bf's brother without my bf...at least I have a hard time imaging that scenario. I find myself hanging out with my bf's sister and her (my) friends more and more without my bf though! In fact, I like hanging out with them more than most of my other friends in this area.
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