Schonne Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 To start off with, English is my 3rd spoken so i apologise for any errors. My girlfriend through 4½ year broke up with me in the end of June. I acted the normal way, i was desperat. I told her i loved her, i'd change and stuff like that. The main issue is that she lost the sparkle... Due to me, to my actions. Or well, more due to my lack of actions. I didnt constribute in any way. She cooked, cleaned, washed our clotches, literally everything. All i did was clean the dishes. Furthermore i werent good at taking her out, doing couplestuff. I was, to put it simple, boring. And god damn i regret that now. I'm somewhat convienced that i can seduce her again, but she wont give me a chance. She replies, but only replies to my textmessages. I havent gone NC, i dont think it will work in this case. I want to show her that i've changed for the better. I've done so through Facebook, updating my status with "I've cooked X for the first time, it taste good/bad" etc. I've textmessaged her, what do i know, 4-5 times talking casual. She replies, but she dont ask Q's back. We share a appartment that i currently live in while we try to sell it. She's been over a few times to discuss the selling of it. She has send me mixed signals while she was over. Open bodylanguage, playing with her hair and stuff like that. One time i asked her casually if she wanted to have something to eat as i was about to make dinner myself. She declined. We are 25 and 22. We've talked about wanting to be together "forever", kids and stuff. This came out of the blue for me. So what do i do? I'm 99% sure that if i just ask her out on a date she'll decline. On a sidenote: She still wears the jewellery i gave her.
drawmonkey Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I'm not the best person to ask, but if these are the things she's truly doing, were I in your position, I'd find myself hopeful. But it's hard to tell from the body language and jewelry and such, so I'd be very, very cautious. You might just be reading events in a hopeful manner....reading into things. But yeah, keep trying to be a better man. If you win her back somehow, doing your share of the work and doing things to really let her know you care will do wonders. And if not, the next person in your life will benefit from a more well-rounded partner. Girls like men who can cook them a good meal, dude.
Author Schonne Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 I'm hopefull. Yet i know, as you said, that things like those are hard to read and due to the fact that i want them to be that way, i wont put too much into them - but its hard not to. And what confuses me is that her body says yes and her mouth say no. And yes, i'm trying to be a better man - also for myself really. 90% for her, 10% for myself. Hehe
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