threesixmafia Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 You all know what I'm talking about... hot flakey girls.....The girls that talk about doing stuff with you all the time and then it never ends up happenning. For my specific instance, the girl is hot and she knows it. She stands everyone up....she's famous for disappearing and studying. She's super work ethic minded always work or school first before play. Oh and she actually does study....all the time. We go to the same college and she recently moved to my city for our actual homes. My relationship with her is that I've asked her to hangout during college, but after realizing how much school minded she was and her being unresponsive, I completed stopped trying or caring. Then winter break came. At first it was STILL hard to get her to do stuff, but then I convinced her and I showed her around for a couple of days. It BLEW her away. My life back home is extremely good. I'm really popular so there's always something fun or intresting going on in my life. She kept on telling me how much she loved my life and was jealous of it. She told me I was her YES man (from the movie) as in because she normally hates going out but she loves being out with me so much she'll say yes...Then college came again and after the first few days of hanging out she was unresponsive once so I again completely quit trying. Now it's summer and she just came back for the week and was really excited about coming back and couldn't wait to do the things I was doing. So I told her that I was busy when she got back but to clear her schedule the next day and she told me she would have to check with her dad, but she was very excited to see me. It's kinda legit cause I know her family's very strict...but bull**** cause if she wanted to go out I know she could. Well the day came and I texted her saying I would pick her up at night, and she hasn't responded at all. She really is flakey to everyone...guys or girls...but that was school, now this is break....What should be my next move? Thanks for any input...! And also as for being friendzoned, ya possibly but we really talked so less in college (as in months without contact) we may refer to each other politely as friends.....but we're not actually friends. Basically she's seen me being a leader in school and at home, extremely popular, i'm very known for being spontaneous, and im exciting and take risks....idk what i'm doing wrong :/
BCCA Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 For my specific instance, the girl is hot and she knows it. She stands everyone up....she's famous for disappearing and studying. She's super work ethic minded always work or school first before play. Oh and she actually does study....all the time. People act this way only because they are allowed to. Her 'hotness' has enabled her to treat people as though they are disposable, because from her standpoint, the attention wont stop coming anyway. What she does while blowing people off is irrelevant, if it was important enough to hang out with you, she would find time to study later. My relationship with her is that I've asked her to hangout during college, but after realizing how much school minded she was and her being unresponsive, I completed stopped trying or caring. Ok, part of figuring out what happened is admitting it to yourself. You stopped trying because she was unresponsive. She was unresponsive because she wasnt interested. It has nothing to do with her being school minded, youre just rationalizing to yourself why she wasnt interested. School is not the reason, trust me. At first it was STILL hard to get her to do stuff, but then I convinced her and I showed her around for a couple of days. It BLEW her away. My life back home is extremely good. I'm really popular so there's always something fun or intresting going on in my life. She kept on telling me how much she loved my life and was jealous of it. She told me I was her YES man (from the movie) as in because she normally hates going out but she loves being out with me so much she'll say yes...Then college came again and after the first few days of hanging out she was unresponsive once so I again completely quit trying. Do you see the pattern here? Shes basically ignored you 90% of the time, and probably only hung out with you because she had NOTHING else to do, and it boosted her ego to know you wanted her. She has repeatedly ignored your attempts to hang out and contact her. What should be my next move? Lose her number, never call her again. And also as for being friendzoned, ya possibly but we really talked so less in college (as in months without contact) we may refer to each other politely as friends.....but we're not actually friends. Basically she's seen me being a leader in school and at home, extremely popular, i'm very known for being spontaneous, and im exciting and take risks....idk what i'm doing wrong :/ I dont even think you are her friend. You are some random guy that wants to hang out with her that shes not interested in. Do yourself a favor, dont assume that shes seen you do at school, because it doesnt matter. Plain and simple, she just isnt interested, and instead of taking the hint LONG AGO and walking, youre just making it worse by trying over and over. Youre on your way to 'Pathetic-Ville'. Try and hang out with a girl once, maybe twice. If it doesnt work, you walk. Delete the number out of your phone, and dont bother them anymore. She probably sees next to zero value in you at this point. You have to value yourself and your time before anyone else does.
Hkizzle Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Yeah BCCA gives good advice. I met a really hot Carlsberg girl promoting Carlsberg in a bar on Sat. She was flirting with me, and I felt I did a good job of flirting with her without lowering my own value. She gives me her number and the last thing she says was call me. I know not to call these women the day after meeting them, but she said her only day off was Sunday. Called her 2pm on Sunday and she says she no longer wants to go out Sunday, maybe next week....... All I can do now, is NEVER call her back. If I call her, I would come off as needy or desperate in her mind. She's got my number and if she doesn't call, she doesn't want to. That's power and choice she has because she's hot. Wait till I bang her brains out and turn the table on this nasty bitch......
New Again Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 What BCCA said. Sounds like she was using you over break, since she didn't know anyone, etc.
Chicago_Guy Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 You all know what I'm talking about... hot flakey girls.....The girls that talk about doing stuff with you all the time and then it never ends up happenning. For my specific instance, the girl is hot and she knows it. She stands everyone up....she's famous for disappearing and studying. She's super work ethic minded always work or school first before play. Oh and she actually does study....all the time. Women like that are extremely self-centered. Don't waste anymore time on her. She'll come to you if she is interested.
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