V.Vixen Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I come from a semi dysfunctional family. My mom is bipolar, and that side of the fam is pretty much the definition of dysfunction. I have somehow come out fairly well adjusted. My question is this: does the fact that I don't have a good relationship with most of my family (due to their dysfunction and my desire to turn out differently) make me less datable? There is always that question that the family of a person asks about their significant other: What kind of family does he/she come from? does he/she have good family values? etc, etc... The thing is that I would LOVE a close knit family with a close bond. I just am not able to have that with mine. What are your thoughts? ETA: sorry for the spelling error in the title!
jb1173 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I'm afraid that it might pose an issue for some. I have a very similar situation as yourself -- small family, no siblings, father who is a drug-addicted and abusive scumbag and a mother who is not emotionally or financially independent. While it has never been of concern for men I was in relationships with, it did come up this most recent time. One "cause" my ex-boyfriend gave for breaking things off with me was my fractured family. He said that if he found himself destitute that he could depend on his family, and that I don't have that. He is probably right, but that lack of support and family unit is through no fault of my own. What surprised me about this ex making it such an issue is that one would think that a big, strong family would only be of concern to someone who wanted children, and neither of us do. Go figure.
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