angelface78 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Guys its true!!! He is seeing someone else. To recap i looked at my ex's myspace only to see his status engaged. We ended OUR engagement 2 months ago. His sister called me...her and i were always really tight. She told me everything. He is seeing a girl totally the opposite of me is what she said. She told me this girl is trashy. This girl is only 21 she has tatoos everywhere and has a two year old son. Her sister said that his parents are outraged. His parents dont want her in their house. I was with this guy 4.5 years. How could he do this to me???? I AM DESTROYED!!! His sis says that she doubts they are engaged and if they are he probably gave her my ring...i looked at his myspace again and now it says single. This guy is very immature but i never thought this much. He apparently got fired from his part time job(where he met her) because he had to go pick her up from some party where she was all passed out drunk!!WTF!!! Apparently she didnt want to leave with him there was some drama and she took off in another car and crashed his car. (he loves that fu**in car) anyway this was a part time job he got to save for us to get married. There were minors in the car and his boss found out and he got fired. This girl was totally crazy drunk and his sis said she is slutty... He would never tolerate this behavior from me. His sister said...this girl is not ugly shes ok but you are a million times better looking...not even close to having your figure" I dont get it. I am a girl who takes care of herself...i workout religiously am intelligent and am in college. I have no children and am a family girl. His expectations of me where always super high. He always wanted me dressed up and looking super nice... heels everywhere we went. His sis says this girl dresses very trashy she has tatoos behind her ears... on her back is apparently always drinking and partying. What the hell is going on???? HIS SISTER SAID MOVE ON HUN..MY BROTHER IS NOT WORTH IT. She said even her boyfriend said..what is your bro thinking??? That i was so much better...a real woman,smart, good looking, great body and a decent girl to marry.... what is wrong with your brother??? Guys i am very distraught i am in like a state of shock i cried my ass off in the shower and now i feel numb. I have been thru hell with this guy..i was always there for him when he had nobody. We had two major breakups and he came crawling back and i took him back. How the hell did this happen to me??? Is she just a rebound or is he all in love with this girl??? I would greatly appreciate anyones help.
Thornton Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 If she's as you describe her, I doubt the relationship will last. She doesn't sound like the sort of person who could maintain a stable relationship anyway... she's only 21 but she already has a (probably illegitimate) child and has scared its father away, plus your ex's family hate her, and imo she sounds dreadful. He's probably just on the rebound and will ditch her in due course. It sounds like you're well rid of him, considering he's willing to date someone so trashy and is getting fired from his job and having car crashes with minors in the vehicle.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Sounds like he has a bad case of the "knight in shining armor" syndrome. I dont get it. I am a girl who takes care of herself...i workout religiously am intelligent and am in college. I have no children and am a family girl. His expectations of me where always super high. He always wanted me dressed up and looking super nice... heels everywhere we went. Perhaps he felt that you reached your potential and that there is no need to 'save' you, and perhaps he even got to the point where he felt intimidated by you to an extent, and went and found someone who is so far below you in so many ways - someone who he feels 'needs' him and 'needs' to be saved. Someone with whom he feels in charge, and depended upon.
Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 He's doomed on his current path and has a ton of growing up to do. Sounds like a co-dependant personality type with some emotional maturity to gain.. You're heading in the right direction, just don't look back..... Count yourself lucky!!
BW007 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 He is seeing a girl....This guy is very immature...apparently got fired from his part time job(where he met her),,,,I have been thru hell with this guy.. We had two major breakups.... He sounds like he ain't such a good deal in your own words... I'm in the same sort of boat but my advice is do not compare yourself to the other person.. It sounds like you are confident about yourself in some ways,,, Stick with that and I suggest looking down your nose at this guy.. He is no good for you and sounds like he was a controlling douchenozzle. Try to really start believing that you are better off without him.
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