angelface78 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Guys please help me....i am crying my ass off!! My ex and i broke up 2 months ago. i have maintained NC that long. its been so hard. We were engaged and i gave back the ring. He is a very proud individual who doesnt know how to apologize. Whenever we had a falling out he always waited till i came to him first even if he was dying to call me he wouldnt. In these last 2 months i know he regretts the breakup. He has been putting up headlines on myspace to make me mad in order for me to call him!! I stopped looking for a while but curiosity got the best of me and i looked today. His status says:ENGAGED and his headline says. I HAD A BLAST WITH MY BABYGIRL LAST NIGHT" That is what he used to call me babygirl. What is going on here. I feel so shaken...is this for real?? How can he be engaged we just broke our engagement 2 months ago!!! Is it possible he met someone and is now engaged??? It took him 4 years to give me an engagement ring. please guys tell me what you think. Is he trying to get me to call him???? I would appreciate anyones insight....thanks again I want to throw up...
gd26 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 If you call him after seeing that kind of myspace message, there is only going to be incredible pain and/or drama in the call. Do not call under any circumstances and stay far, far away! If he is having a rebound relationship with another girl, then you calling him will only result in you getting really hurt upon calling him. On the other hand, if he's only writing that because he's angry at you, then you calling him won't do any good either - as why would you want to be around a passive-aggressive liar who forces you to do all the work? No outcome seems good. If you are having anxiety, it may be good to take a time out and go lie down in bed and try to relax for a little bit. Take some deep breaths and allow yourself to feel calmer. You'll be okay. Just focus on getting through the present moment and allow yourself to start relaxing through it.
Author angelface78 Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 why would someone hurt someone they were with for so long on purpose???? I feel horrible...my heart hurts sooo bad ;(
PinkToes Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I would be very surprised if the stuff he's writing were true. I think you're absolutely right that he's trying to get your attention, so don't give in. I also doubt that he's trying to deliberately hurt you, but that doesn't make it easier, I know. The best thing you can do is try to distract yourself when you're tempted to check up on him. Nothing good can come of it, and if he really wants to get in touch with you, he'll have to do it like a grownup, for a change!
gypsi Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 so sorry to hear that angelface thats just terrible. I also think he playing games with you, dont pay attention to it. You have to stop checking his myspace or fb page it is going to drive you CRAZY the less you hear from him and see whats going on in his life the faster you heal. But you also have to start making peace with the fact that they will eventually meet someone else and move on, i know its hard and it hurts but that is a reality. Goodluck hope you feel better soon.
Meaplus3 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 The simple fact that he is acting this way by posting that stuff on his myspace page, just shows how childish he is another reason that your probably better off with out him. Now, please do yourself a big favor and don't look. Looking will just upset you and prevent you from moving on. You have done a great job of sticking to NC.. keep that up and your the winner here. Mea:)
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