soccercraze13917 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 i have a big big problem!!!! my ex-boyfrined broke up with me because he wanted 2 see other people. about 3 weeks later he was dating another girl. he recently just got dumped by her, and now he asked me back out!!!!!! all of my frineds told me to say NO because he broke my heart once, i told him No and that i just wanted to be friends, but now im regreting it because i think i still have feelings for him!!!!!! Now me and him are really good frineds witch is great but..... my best guy friend is like in love with me and im afraid that he wont talk to me if i go back out with my ex-boyfriend, also i dont know how long me and him will last and i dont want my heart 2 be broken again!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!:(:(:(:(:(:(:(
PhantomSunrise Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 This is why you shouldn't be friends with the opposite sex. Creepy situations where your "friend" is in love with you. Ew. Tell him to bug off and stop pretending to be just friends like he has all along. DOORMAT! I say you give your ex another shot if you want to.
Exit Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Your ex made his choice. It would be different if he started dating this other girl, and WITHOUT being dumped by her, decided to come back to you because he decided you were the one. He only came back when he got his heart broken. I'm sorry and I'm sure you still have feelings for him, but you have to make him live with his choice, at least for a while. See if he pursues you at all and tries to make up for his mistake, or if he just gives up right away when you don't cave in.
Author soccercraze13917 Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 thanks i really feel confident about my choice i made but for some reason i still cant let go i think about him every second of every day!!!! me and him were the "perfect couple" as my frineds would say!!! we had so many good times and also i dont think he broke up with me just becasue he wanted to see other people it has to be more than that please more advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PhantomSunrise Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Maybe he broke up with you due to the excessive use of explanation marks. Just sayin
Author soccercraze13917 Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 verry funny, but sersiously i need ADVICE!
WiseOne1 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I see what your saying.. You don't want to go back with the ex because he's hurt you once, and you don't want it to happen again and don't want to take that chance again. Your friend say's that he loves you, it could be possible that he's always loved you, or at lest always felt something for you. The big issue with taking the ex back is like "Exit" said, he only came back due that the other girl didn't want him and kicked him to the curve, so he got his feelings hurt, now he want's you back, your the 2nd option, your not the primary, it would have been diffrent if he would have left the other girl own his own. Ok here's the time for what if's..... What if a new girl comes along and catches his attention? What if the same girl comes back and he wants her again? Unless he's knocking down your door showing 100% remorse, I mean showing that he means it, not just asking and then being quiet, he really needs to show it, and even then make he wait a month for it.
Author soccercraze13917 Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 thanks wiseone1 but my best guy friend has like me since 4th grade, also ur right maybe i should wait and see what really happens with him he probably will go out with another girl in a month and get over me maybe that will help me relize that we really arent 4 eachother
WiseOne1 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 thanks wiseone1 but my best guy friend has like me since 4th grade, also ur right maybe i should wait and see what really happens with him he probably will go out with another girl in a month and get over me maybe that will help me relize that we really arent 4 eachother In that case "I didn't know that the ex guy friend has liked you since 4th grade", I really think he deserves a chance, but thats only if you see him as BF material, if you don't he can't force you to feel a certain way. Also if you are having thoughts of going with the friend, make sure you can handle then things the ex is going to throw your way, like guilt trips, and bringing up old times, and trying to be more than friends, if you know what I mean, you don't want to ruin the friendship with your friend. Trust ME......My ex gf and I went through the same thing, her ex BF came back out of the blue after being gone for 9 months str8, she hadn't even heard a peep out of him. He comes back and me and her are together, and she went into this mode that she was confused and didn't know who she wanted. Mind you, before we got together we were friends for 6 years str8, best friends, even went to sleep on the phone together everynight, and talked maybe 16 hours out of the entire day, seriously! Anyways she choose me, but I felt as like maybe he wondered off again with another girl, she says she choose me over him, but I feel like he just kicked her to the curve again. My point is, me and her have never been the same, and hes long gone and has not came back since that day, but he destroyed a perfect friendship that could never return to like it was. So if you do go with the friend, make sure the ex is history and that your fully over him.
Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 you're getting the bigger picture now. You can do this, you have the strength to move on. Don't make anyone a priority who only makes you an option.
boogieboy Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Your ex isnt into you anymore, thats why he dumped you. if you go back to him, you will be dumped again within a month when he finds another girl. Try out the new guy.
Author soccercraze13917 Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 thanks, but what if i dont get my heart broken what if he really is the one what if he really does like me and isnt just using me for show what if.... you get the point
leescott Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Maybe you need to access the worst case scenario with all the options that you have and then make a choice from there. Thats what I'd do.
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