Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I have been out of the game for a long time, and getting back in again has been a learning experience all over again. I didnt even notice that I was being flirted with until other people kept pointing it out to me. I am starting to get approached by a lot of women now. 50% of them are already taken....Why do they give you that look of lust,flirt and exchange of deep lingering gazes, smiles and so on if they are taken? I have noticed the women will approach, rgardless if they are with there partners or not and give me the signs that they are interested. I didnt read anything into it until 6 different people (guys and girls) told me about girls actions towards me and that i'm crazy if I didnt notice.... They started calling me 'magnet' ... Has anyone else experienced this after a LTR?
monkey00 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 They do it just because they can and because they've got nothing to lose. Often times though if I run into a woman who is too overly confident/flirty with me, usually in the back of my head it screams that she's already taken and usually it's been true. I think single girls are more likely to be quiet/shy/nervous around guys they like. Unfortunately because of that it's hard to tell if they're really interested or not.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 good point, thank you for that. But it happens with single girls too... I have just become incredibly bad at reading the signs. No wonder one asked if I was gay...LMAO
PhantomSunrise Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 For some reason this topic comes off as bragging. They are approaching you when they're in relationships because you probably seemed gay as you stated, and thus, you weren't a threat. You had the potential to be a legitimate friend to them that wouldn't try to get with them. Most girls flirt without knowing it, too. Doesn't mean they're necessarily interested. At all
lora22 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Lots of reasons. Like: trying to make bf jealous; ego boost; they're just flirtatious people in general; they're drunk; they're trying to make friends... Glad it seems you're doing well since your move!
Author Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 Sunrise. I can see how some of it might come off as bragging, and I was a little concerned about that as I was posting. I guess I'm one of those insecure people. Just having come out of a LTR, I'm out the game and I guess I still feel a bit confidence and assurence julted from it all. One thought I was gay as I didnt reciprocate, and justly so as she was there with her BF. So yes, i guess you could say that it is bragging to some extent. I'm also looking for a bit of insight into the actions and reactions, so thanks for your honesty. Lora! It's been ages!!! How're you?
Roxanna Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Nope, I pretty much never get hit on by guys with girlfriends. Ever. If I do, it's never been anyone I talked to long enough to find out they were in an R.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Some women just need external validation. Being in a relationship isn't enough. They have to know that they are sexy to men in general.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 Some women just need external validation. Being in a relationship isn't enough. They have to know that they are sexy to men in general. haha...i recognise that women you're talking about!
Author Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 I can honestly say I'm a bit of an attention whore.... Damn alter ego I'll be sure in the future to not look so much into things when it comes down to vibes from women like that
westernxer Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I'll be sure in the future to not look so much into things when it comes down to vibes from women like that I've gotten those vibes, too. Like that time at the library when I caught this girl giving me a prolonged stare as she walked by. Her boyfriend, who was five feet behind her, began staring at me too, after he caught her doing it. His stare was more of a "I'm gonna kick your ass if you keep it up," as if I were the one at fault. I pretended like it never happened and kept doing my thing, even though it did make me feel good, knowing I could create tension in their relationship simply by reason of being. LOL They think you're sexy, so enjoy it.
amymarieca Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Some women just need external validation. Being in a relationship isn't enough. They have to know that they are sexy to men in general. I fully agree. I have married friends who will take their wedding rings off before they go out just to see how many men will hit on them! It seems kind of tacky if you ask me, but I guess some people just need it because they are insecure.
Thaddeus Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 ego boost Some women just need external validation. some people just need it because they are insecure.These three nailed it: ego, need for external validation, and insecurity. It's not gender-specific, though. There are guys that are like this too.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Thanks for all the insight. This can't be the case EVERY time tho.....?? ach...who am I kidding
BobSacamento Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 People love to be reminded they are attractive. No biggie. Just play the game. Ask her about her jewelry next time. See if she slips and says it was a gift from her BF.
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