vulcan Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Been seeing this girl 4 about a month now. Right from the start I guess there was a miss communication. Apparently, I had thought she wanted to date exclusively and see how things went: however, She meant she just wanted to date 4 a good time. Well we get along soo well and of course all along I was thinking wow this going nice. I mean she was asking questions like do your parents like me? do your friends like me? I think we should do this and we should do that like making plans for things we could do in the future that made me think she was planning on staying around a bit.and asking things that lead me to believe that she was asking questions to see if I was a worthy someone. So I was looking forward to a nice relationship developing. Last night we went to a fair had a GREAT time we both had some drinks. We somehow got on the topic of US and then it just went downhill. I don't know if it was because of the alcohol or what but it wasn't nice. She said some things to me that kinda hurt and apparently I said something that hurt her like days ago that I didn't even realize I had offended her. I mean believe me I never would say something to outright offend her. It was a mistake. She also accused me of looking at a waitress. That's what hurt me because I never looked at another girl since I met her. I mean I never Iam not like that So i was really ticked off about that because it just wasn't true. So anyways I apologized I dropped her off at home I hugged her and said I don't want to fight like this because you are special to me and I don't want you to think that I was looking at other girls because since I met you I have just really focused on getting to know you. Well she said I have allot to think about and process and need time to think. So I said fine so now my question is should I call her and try to see if it was just the drinking that caused allot of this or something because I'm really kinda upset about all this.
in_absentia Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Nah leave her to it. She needs time to think and process, because you said something that upset her so bad a few days ago, but it wasn't bad enough to bring up then? And accuses you of LOOKING at another female? Sounds like she's all kinds of crazy if she actually means those things. Or on the other hand she could not be as into you as you think, and is using those things as excuses to cool off. In which case ringing her is only going to make you look desparate and make her want to be with you even less. Seriously, seriously don't call her. EDIT: i forgot to add that you sound like a bit of a doormat, not in a nasty way, but some girls will take your being nice and sweet, and walk all over you. Like the looking at a waitress part, you shouldn't have even bothered dignifying that with an answer, LET ALONE ASKING HER TO BELIEVE YOU THAT YOU HAVEN'T LOOKED AT ANOTHER WOMAN SINCE YOU MET HER. Some not-so-nice girls will take advantage of you is all I'm sayin.
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