lizzylizliz Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 So, after almost 2 months, several dates and one-night stands, I have *just* gotten into a relationship. He's a nice guy, and makes me feel adored..always complements me, pays for everything, gives me attention, and misses me when I'm not around. Sounds great, huh? But I'm still thinking about my ex. It's driving me crazy, because I ended it, and I don't want him back, nor do I ever particularly want to see him again. He's back with his ex now (after 6 months of saying he never would be, and of her insisting that she had no feelings for him anymore), and he's happy, I assume. And I should be too...so why this? It makes no sense. I want to make it work, because I think this guy is everything I could ever want....but if this is the case, why would I think of my ex at all? I just don't understand. Part of me is struggling to relate, I want to let the new guy in, but the words keep sticking in my throat. I've never had this problem before. I don't want to call it off, because he's fun and funny, and I'd miss him. It's a bit therapeutic being with him too, it helps because it shows me how I *should* be treated...my ex treated me badly, never made me feel attractive, never showed me affection, and would openly mock me in front of other people, and showed me disrespect. Any advice would be great if anyone's going through the same xxxx
Exit Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Sounds like you have some lingering feelings and it's not fair to the new guy to be in this situation. Part of you must feel like you didn't try everything possible to make it work with the ex.
Author lizzylizliz Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Sounds like you have some lingering feelings and it's not fair to the new guy to be in this situation. Part of you must feel like you didn't try everything possible to make it work with the ex. Maybe. But then I had been trying to convince myself that I didn't ever need anyone else ever again, and just wanted to be single. I ended it with the ex because he treated me like crap, and I couldn't take it any more, I've got too much self respect. Just wondering if other people are/have been in the same situation, is it normal to feel like this? I don't want my ex back, but still think of him.
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