Author revoo Posted September 17, 2009 Author Posted September 17, 2009 THX I moved in my new room, got some sort of a promotion at the job, I want to get my drivers license. I still want her! I felt an urge to talk to her after I`v seen her today in the morning. I must wait until she will brake up with that guy, or dont know, I feel capable of winning her back but I`m not strong enough to make my move yet. Sounds stupid that I am making plans of getting back with her, but like I told in an earlier post, I dont want to live my life knowing that I love her and that I didnt try to win her back.
wondering_girl Posted September 18, 2009 Posted September 18, 2009 hey revoo, when ya get a chance can you look at my post? the silent break-up? i wish i am as strong as you right now, i'm still weak, lost, and confused...... you're right about letting go is when i let him go on my own instead of waiting on him... it hurts, and just like you said, i'm still in-love with him, that's why i'm having the hardest time.... thanks for listening
Author revoo Posted September 20, 2009 Author Posted September 20, 2009 Opinions please. I want to start contacting her. I want us to be friends at first and then see what will be from there on. I know it sounds stupid but I just have to do it. Dont know when to do it, so it wont be to late or to early. I dont care for the other guy, he is not me. Maybe she wants to see if I can give her the attention she deserved and didnt get form me. If not, I will suffer a bit but probably will see that this wont go nowhere and I will let go. I kept NC till now but I really love her, or I think I do, and to find out if i truly love her, I must be somehow beside her. I wanted to get over the pain, and I am 73% there. I always wanted to try again, and I always will, so at some point I have to do it. Next year she will probably move away from this city if she doesnt have someone to stay for, and if she does I will be more crushed then ever before, because at least now I know that she is living here. Please give some advice.
mickleb Posted September 21, 2009 Posted September 21, 2009 I suggest you read Exit's recent posts, revoo. She knows how you feel about her. You don't have to repeat your commitment to someone endlessly to them. The woman you're in love with is not stupid - she is with another man. You should NOT have to PERSUADE a woman to love you. It cannot be done. You must let her make her choices. I'm so sorry, revoo but she knows where to find you and you have made it clear to her how you feel. What else do you think you can possibly achieve? x
Author revoo Posted September 21, 2009 Author Posted September 21, 2009 Its not about feelings. She knows how I feel, but it doesnt mater if I cant behave like a good boyfriend. I must show her that i care. Anyway, I will think about it a little bit before I will make something. Or at least speak to her a few times, even if it hurts, just to see her reaction. I must know something, cuz I just shut her out of my life, and she means a lot to me.
Author revoo Posted September 21, 2009 Author Posted September 21, 2009 Even if you read other peoples posts, you still have the hope, you still have that thing in you, the feelings, and that "she isnt like that", because she was with me and so on. So I probably will go trough a few hard moments, and that it will hurt like hell, but as I told you, I dont want to live life without knowing. I must find out for myself, like all the others do. You dont know what will happen, there is no recipe for this. I sound foolish, and the probability of failing is over 90%, but still. Even if we just remain friends, or I dont really know what. Like all others I am still confused. Just cant accept that she is just gone like that. She wanted to keep contact, she told me that she doenst feel for me anymore, but as I was the first all, that cant be true. Anyway, you will find out about it all, so there will be another lesson learned written down here. Take care all.
mickleb Posted September 22, 2009 Posted September 22, 2009 You seem very intent on doing this, revoo. It's as though you know it won't help you but you're going to do it anyway. I'm not entirely sure what you are trying to achieve. It's as though you're just going to keep throwing yourself at her until... what? When will you stop? When she has gone, in a year? It might be this masochistic attitude that you have that has made her leave you or not come back to you. I don't think I can understand until you explain exactly what it is you hope to achieve. Regardless of whether I understand or not, however, I hope you get what you need. I hope you are okay. x
Author revoo Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 A friend talked to her today. Its all over, she wasnt the one for me. I hope I will get over it soon. And hope that there wont be any cary moments anymore. Trying to sink it in. It will be hard but like my mom always said "Life is hard". She will move away from this city soon, max a year. It bothers me, but thats that. I learned to never trust fully anybody, but I always will trust my friends because I am that kind of a person. It would be nice to feel this way from now on, accepting things as they are. hope it will be. Take care all.
Author revoo Posted September 22, 2009 Author Posted September 22, 2009 mickleb thanks for the advice, you know what you are saying. It was a desperate post. Thats all. It was a stupid moment that I was in. But luckely I didnt have to talk to her to find out things. I usually must go my way and experience things on my own before I can accept them. That is why I decided to go ahead whatever the cost. Luckely I didnt do it. It would have hurt like HELL. I must learn to take advices from people, and select them in a good way. I am sad now, but its a happy sad feeling. Hope that it will sink in. I have much to learn about life. Hope that I can change and become a better person.
mickleb Posted September 23, 2009 Posted September 23, 2009 Oh, I'm sorry, revoo. I think acceptance is the hardest part. Perhaps, as you have been fighting that for so long, you can now feel relief and then move onto the grieving stage. I was so worried about you 'feeding yourself to the lions' and getting wounded again and again. I hope you can really start taking care of yourself now and that you keep letting us know how you are doing. My best wishes to you, sweetie. x
Author revoo Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 I followed the instructions of meeting new people. Its working, I am was having a real fun time. And I`m not thinking of her anymore. YEPEE I`m free. It feels like **** in a way, sometimes, but then again, I am free to do anything with anyone.
Author revoo Posted September 28, 2009 Author Posted September 28, 2009 Advice for other people, IT IS MUCH EASIER IF YOU DON`T SEE THE OTHER ONE! Trust me! And trust the rest of people who say this.
mickleb Posted September 28, 2009 Posted September 28, 2009 Hey revoo! So nice to hear you're feeling happier. Don't go rebounding into anything too quickly, now will you?! Have fun and that will help you to deal with the down days. Good for you! x
Author revoo Posted September 29, 2009 Author Posted September 29, 2009 Don`t worry, I wont rush into anything. I will let things happen naturally, I mean I wont stand there without doing nothing but I wont be to pushy, just having some fun take care
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