dunstable Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Yeah your confused. My statement wasn't for the OP. So do you think the OP said the right thing?
BobSacamento Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 So do you think the OP said the right thing? I don't think it hurt her chances at all. Just a bit odd.
BobSacamento Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Curious- what was odd about it? The whole drink for the road. It's very courteous but I'm assuming they just came from somewhere with ample chances to hydrate, like a restaurant for example.
RA1 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I'd love to hear how you came to that assumption. From what you said. Where did I misunderstand?
BobSacamento Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 From what you said. Where did I misunderstand? Well I never said I only date for the sex part and I never said I expected to get invited in after the first date. So pretty much everything I said you misunderstood.
Author skjd1220 Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 The whole drink for the road. It's very courteous but I'm assuming they just came from somewhere with ample chances to hydrate, like a restaurant for example. Yeah- we had just come from a restaurant but it was late and we hadn't been drinking water, so I was just trying to be nice. Plus as another poster added, I thought that if he really wanted to come up, he'd say yes to a drink for the road to come in and see what happened from there. Leaves me with another question then...at the end of a date, if you want the guy to come in, what's the right approach? Just ask 'would you like to come up?'. That just seems really obvious and like an invitation for sex.
dunstable Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Yeah- we had just come from a restaurant but it was late and we hadn't been drinking water, so I was just trying to be nice. Plus as another poster added, I thought that if he really wanted to come up, he'd say yes to a drink for the road to come in and see what happened from there. Leaves me with another question then...at the end of a date, if you want the guy to come in, what's the right approach? Just ask 'would you like to come up?'. That just seems really obvious and like an invitation for sex. If you had said "Would you like to come up?", I would have taken that to mean "Would you like to have sex?" and I think 99.9% of men would have thought the same. Offering a drink for the road was a very civilized way of leaving the options open and I think you said just the right thing. You are an intelligent and sensitive girl and I congratulate you.
RA1 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Well I never said I only date for the sex part and I never said I expected to get invited in after the first date. So pretty much everything I said you misunderstood. I apologize for misunderstanding. It still leaves me wondering what you were trying to say but it's not important since you said words in another post to the effect you were off at a tangent and not addressing the OP.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I need your opinions once again. In the past, I think I have sabotaged relationships early on by being too physical. I had a great second date with a new guy tonight. We had parked by my house and walked to a local bar. We had a fun evening and things seemed to go well. After, we walked to my house to get to his car. When we arrived, I wasn't sure if I should invite him in or not. I don't want to blow this one. I asked if he needed pop or water for his drive home and he said no. I didn't invite him in....was that a mistake? I don't want him to think I'm uninterested but I also want to take things slow. Thanks for your thoughts. Behave on the premise that guys have been reading: "If a woman invites you in, she would like something physically intimate to take place" So obviously, a woman need only determine what she really wants before coming to that fork in the road, before inviting or skipping the invitation accordingly.
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