texaslibby Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 I have been divorced for about 2 years (seperated 3 years). The guy I'm dating is newly divorced and not quite in the same place emotionally as I am. We have both agreed to keep our relationship casual but I am reallya starting to develop some serious feelings for this person. Neither of us is seeing anybody else but we haven't made the decision to not see other people. In an attemp to keep it casual I have started enterntaining the idea of seeing other people. I feel we are keeping it "casual" in label only and that the amount of time we spend together, texting and talking is not really in line with that label but that's what what makes him feel comfortable. I am looking for some thoughts or advice on whether I should date other people, if that would do more damage than good, is it fair to the someone else to try and date me?
Devil Inside Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I have been divorced for about 2 years (seperated 3 years). The guy I'm dating is newly divorced and not quite in the same place emotionally as I am. We have both agreed to keep our relationship casual but I am reallya starting to develop some serious feelings for this person. Neither of us is seeing anybody else but we haven't made the decision to not see other people. In an attemp to keep it casual I have started enterntaining the idea of seeing other people. I feel we are keeping it "casual" in label only and that the amount of time we spend together, texting and talking is not really in line with that label but that's what what makes him feel comfortable. I am looking for some thoughts or advice on whether I should date other people, if that would do more damage than good, is it fair to the someone else to try and date me? Maybe you should let him in on what you are feeling. If he were to find out you were dating he may interpret that as you not liking him, and not your attempt to keep it casual. How would you feel if he wanted to take this relationship from casual to serious. Would that be ok with you? Because the other thing I wonder is if you are trying to prevent this from getting serious because he may not be ready. In the end, I think you communicate with him. Tell him you have some feelings..and go from there.
Author texaslibby Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 I think he is definately not ready for anything serious yet I am not quite sure how to keep it from going that direction. I think my fear is that we are at such different places in our lives that this is doomed. I hate to think that is true though because he is the first person I have felt a true connection with since my divorce and this connection seems to grow stronger each time we are together.
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