Trialbyfire Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 I keep reading this time and again from some of the male posters and am looking for some honest answers from the ladies on LS. Is it true that a man who's taken, is more attractive to you than single men? I have my own theories but am more interested in hearing everyone else's.
girl68 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Yes, but it only makes him slightly more attractive- it's not like he isn't attractive and then I found out that he is taken that I think "oh yeah, nnow he's a hottie". It goes on the demand principle! Taken man is "in demand" therefore his worth goes up.
dreamergrl Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 In the sense that he's a 'wanted guy' and that he's something 'I can't have'. But I stop there and put my attraction to someone else. My attraction grows with flirty stuff... and a taken guy flirting with someone that is not his girlfriend makes me wanna
IrishCarBomb Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 I won't elaborate (seeing as the question isn't really directed at my demographic anyways), but the "taken" attraction has a very similar explanation as the "bad boy" or "a-hole" attraction IMO.
brightskies Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Not the case for me. If I'm single I tend to be more attracted to someone who's likewise. Don't want to mess with OPP. Plus, can't trust someone who'd cheat with you. Although I can understand how it might be true for someone else. Some element of the object of desire being pre-approved or vetted, or wanting what you can't have. Or, maybe it's a power trip -- being able to pull someone out of a commitment just cause you're that hot, or something.
Island Girl Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 More attractive - yes - in the sense that he can obviously commit and his humor, intelligence, etc. is taken at face value instead of that little bit of questioning ("is this a show for MY benefit?"). However, not attractive in the sense that I have now found someone I would like to pursue a relationship with. And, in the event that he makes a comment or, God forbid, a pass he instantly becomes a complete DOUCHE. Which is completely unattractive. So to maintain that little something he has to be committed and absolutely faithful in action, verbiage, gestures, etc. He can be nice but we all know there is that line that you do not cross...
Gemini09 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I keep reading this time and again from some of the male posters and am looking for some honest answers from the ladies on LS. Is it true that a man who's taken, is more attractive to you than single men? I have my own theories but am more interested in hearing everyone else's. I think sometimes women may view men who are taken more attractive. This may be because the man automatically comes across as a better spouse, since he is in a relationship and not single. You may assume he has good qualities and would make a good partner. This of course is not necessarily the case. Otherwise, I don't really see how you can make a generalization about this, because it really depends on the person, if they are more attractive or not.
AlektraClementine Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Now that I'm taken, I hardly notice anyone in that way anymore. When I was single though, I went for a different type of guy. I may be the odd girl out, here. I always LOVED to chase the guys who weren't "much for dating". The artsy types who stayed in most nights tinkering about the house. When they did socialize, there was never an agenda. That's another thing I liked. Ahhhh, the brooding, intellectual, artist. :bunny: To clarify, I'm using artsy in the sense that they were actually talented. Not some product-in-their-hair, wannabe, indie, coffee house hack.
AlektraClementine Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 BUT - there is some truth to this. I told my fiance a long time ago..."the most attractive accessory a man can have is a girlfriend." I notice it ALL the time.
Touche Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Is it true that a man who's taken, is more attractive to you than single men?[/b It's the truth. Taken men rule..especially when he's taken by me.
Island Girl Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 It's the truth. Taken men rule..especially when he's taken by me. Too true Touche.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Not for me. I did my time with 'attached men' and when I see one now regardless of how hot he is I turn a blind eye. They simply cease to exist as sex objects to me.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Nope, I wouldn't be attracted to men that are taken. Although I became jealous when my ex got a new gf. I don't know what's so appealing about someone elses' SO, maybe the imagery of a loving couple creates more envy than anything else. Otherwise, I prefer to hit on single men that are attractive in appearance and personality.
in_absentia Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Absolutely not.. as soon as I realise a guy is taken my attraction for him would dip hugely because I know he is off limits and not even worth thinking about. Been with my bf 3 years though and I'm only 21 so don't have any experience in that area. But still.
Cora Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I guess I can agree with this. It's not that I go around and find every taken man so attractive just because he is taken. However, I do find that when a guy is interested in me and he just isn't my type for whatever reason, as soon as he gets a girlfriend I become extremely jealous and find him more attractive then I did previously. It's like I say to myself damn! why didn't I take him when I had the chance? I had no interest in him before, but as soon as he became taken his attractiveness goes way up! I don't know why I think this way. It's not everytime, but a lot of the time I find this to be true. It kind of sounds bad really. I however would never chase after a taken man. I do have my limits lol.
AlektraClementine Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I guess I can agree with this. It's not that I go around and find every taken man so attractive just because he is taken. However, I do find that when a guy is interested in me and he just isn't my type for whatever reason, as soon as he gets a girlfriend I become extremely jealous and find him more attractive then I did previously. It's like I say to myself damn! why didn't I take him when I had the chance? I had no interest in him before, but as soon as he became taken his attractiveness goes way up! I don't know why I think this way. It's not everytime, but a lot of the time I find this to be true. It kind of sounds bad really. I however would never chase after a taken man. I do have my limits lol. Because another woman (presumably not insane) has done your dirty work. She's deemed him worthy. He's just moved from desperate to desirable.
shadowplay Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Absolutely not. It's the opposite. It's a turn off for me when I find out a guy has a gf because I know I can't have him. I don't even allow myself to let a crush or feeling of attraction build unless I feel there's a chance something could happen between us. When that hope disappears, my crush goes *poof*. There's only been one exception to this rule, and he wasn't unavailable to me because he had a gf (he didn't). He just didn't like me. But I'd been into him for years, so he was tougher to get over. Why do you ask, and what's your own opinion?
MSUE Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 In my world I don't think it necesarily matters much...attractiveness is based on other factors not wether he's taken or not...although I'd prefer one that's not attached cause I'm not a fan of sharing and want him home w me everynite
CaliGuy Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I keep reading this time and again from some of the male posters and am looking for some honest answers from the ladies on LS. Is it true that a man who's taken, is more attractive to you than single men? I have my own theories but am more interested in hearing everyone else's. TBF this is easy to understand. 1. If another woman has him, he must be worth something. 2. If he was a woman, he is less likely to look interested in another woman (and come off as a horn dog). 3. Women find men with self control and little interest in them, attractive. DER Glad to see that pic of you back.
sally4sara Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 TBF this is easy to understand. 1. If another woman has him, he must be worth something. 2. If he was a woman, he is less likely to look interested in another woman (and come off as a horn dog). 3. Women find men with self control and little interest in them, attractive. DER Glad to see that pic of you back. Exactly. I love a guy who is taken and can't be bothered, especially when I was single. Not because I wanted to go after him, but because it was a sign that I could find one like him for myself. Now, I don't think about it; I found one for myself. I only notice if a guy I know isn't an admirable fella. I don't find a guy who is receptive to me while he has a woman in his life appealing, because he isn't anything admirable to me and not the sort of guy I'm looking for.
missdependant Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 No. There are attractive men out there, regardless of their relationship status. If anything, men in relationships are LESS attractive strictly for the fact that they are untouchable in my book. (When I was single)
Isolde Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 No one seems to believe me , but I find availability a sexy thing. I think it just so happens that most men who have a lot going for them are taken (same with women, though maybe to a lesser extent). But I respect boundaries to the point where I will not even look at guys that are out with their girlfriends. I don't think cheating or even the thought of cheating, is sexy. Of course a man that is a devoted husband and father has that extra "glow" to him--but that doesn't make him register as a potential dating partner. There is a difference. I take marriage VERY seriously, as well as committed relationships. When a guy ignores me, I take that seriously as a sign he's taken or else isn't interested. It certainly doesn't fuel my attraction in the least; it gently quells it within me and I look straight ahead, focus inward, and walk on.
lora22 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I keep reading this time and again from some of the male posters and am looking for some honest answers from the ladies on LS. Is it true that a man who's taken, is more attractive to you than single men? I have my own theories but am more interested in hearing everyone else's. The second I know or suspect a guy is taken I lose all interest in him and he becomes very unattractive. I almost never find myself attracted to guys who turn out to be in relationships though - I think they must give out a "taken" vibe or something. On the other hand, if a guy has been single for a long time I have to wonder why.
Keoki Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I find my BF much more attractive now that he has ME for a GF.
Author Trialbyfire Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 Why do you ask, and what's your own opinion?I ask because it's been stated so often by men on the dating forum. As for my opinion, I'll wait to hear more from anyone else who wants to give their opinion. Glad to see that pic of you back.Thanks. I haven't posted this pic for over a year and this time, it's for a number of reasons.
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