D-Lish Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 This morning, I ran into a guy I used to date around 4 or 5 years ago. I remember him as this incredibly sexy guy- thick black hair and awesome blue eyes, charming as hell. He was playing pro hockey at the time and he was in great shape. It was a short lived romance- we had great chemistry and I fell quickly and hard for him. He turned out to be a liar and a cheater (go figure). That romance was one that I had such a hard time getting over- I still think of him sometimes and feel residual pain. I walked away when I found out he was a liar and I refused to have contact with him after that. When I saw him this morning I had to do a double take! Most of his thick black hair is still there- but only on the back part of his head:laugh: Those beautiful blue eyes, did I miss out on the fact that one might be slightly lazy- or has he sustained an injury since I saw him last (puck to the head perhaps?) And he was tall right? Maybe the trucker hats he used to wear (when they were cool) elongated his head and made me think he was taller!? He can't be more than 5'11"- but he used to brag about being 6'2'". Maybe 6'3" in skates? I think they do that on hockey cards. So there I am standing face to face with this guy that used to make me go weak in the knees. He gave me a hug and I sunk into his belly where that 6 pack used to live. Hello belly, looks like you've been busy. Why did I used to find him so charming? Today he was laughing too hard at my jokes, trying to do the sexy head tilt with the pursed lips looking me up and down. Well- one eye was looking me up and down, the other one was trying to keep up. It just goes to show you- that ex's don't always live up to your memories. I lost sleep over this guy when I found out he was a cheater.... After seeing him today, all I can say is wow, just wow.
Trialbyfire Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 D, you are too funny! When you care about someone, they tend to look way better, than when you don't. Mother nature gives everyone beer goggles!
Panopticon Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Maybe he was thinking the same thing about you.
OpenBook Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 He gave me a hug and I sunk into his belly where that 6 pack used to live... Today he was laughing too hard at my jokes, trying to do the sexy head tilt with the pursed lips looking me up and down. Well- one eye was looking me up and down, the other one was trying to keep up. :lmao: Looks like you dodged a bullet on this one, D-Lish!
Island Girl Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 OH MY GOD ---- I WAS LAUGHING SO HARD READING THIS!!! And yes D-Lish, I think we have a tendency to romanticize some partners in our heads. ESPECIALLY those that broke our hearts or seem to be "the one that got away". I'm glad you can finally put this to rest -- in a cemetery.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 LOL hahahaha, I'm still waiting for the day I see my ex gain 30 pounds ( although he has put on 15 by now). Time serves as the best vengeance.
manaja Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 ive had this before when ive been dumped, longed to be with them and when you see them again a couple of years down the line , they look totally different, I think we sometimes fall for the "idea " of being with that person, maybe if you had got with him full time way back then , you would of got fed up very quickly, usually the short relationships hurt me more when I fall for someone mainly I think its down to lust , that can be very difficult to control, all we want is that person ,because we feel so sure theyre "the one" !, usually when I find someone genuine who likes me, I tend to be backed off and not very interested, always in doubt,..lol..and they tend to be long term relationships...for me anyway...!
sunshinegirl Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 What nice closure for you, D-Lish! I had something similar, if not so dramatic, happen with my 2005 ex. I've seen pictures of him recently - he's married and has a child now - and wow, he is quite stocky these days. I once thought him to be the most attractive man I'd ever known...but now, without the 'beer goggles' as TBF puts it, I see he's just... a kinda fat guy with a good sense of humor. I'm glad now that we didn't work out, for reasons other than the superficial, but it's also nice to not feel all lusty about him anymore.
westernxer Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 The best revenge is living well and looking great, age be damned.
Lyssa Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 :lmao:@ the other was trying to keep up! You rock, D! I bet you looked awesome and he wish he was still hot as hell.
Author D-Lish Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 HA! I do think that I had idealized him in my head and made him out to be something he never was in the first place. I'm just so glad I ran into him. I can officially put this old heart-break to rest. What a difference 5 years can make!
johan Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Who is it? Claude Lemieux? Theo Fleury? Patrick Roy? Not the great one, I hope.
Author D-Lish Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Who is it? Claude Lemieux? Theo Fleury? Patrick Roy? Not the great one, I hope. The great one was plastered all over my wall when I was 12. My brother had a bunch of his rookie cards neatly arranged in a binder in plastic sleeves. I took them out and glued them into my love scrap book. My brother barely speaks to me now.
johan Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 The great one was plastered all over my wall when I was 12. My brother had a bunch of his rookie cards neatly arranged in a binder in plastic sleeves. I took them out and glued them into my love scrap book. My brother barely speaks to me now. He's not plastered all over your wall now is he. You know why? Because he's let himself go, and now the magic is gone. Sad.
Author D-Lish Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 He's not plastered all over your wall now is he. You know why? Because he's let himself go, and now the magic is gone. Sad. I think Wayne still looks hawt!!! He's not plastered all over my wall- I moved him to the closet.
Thornton Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Not an ex in my case, but this guy I had a huge crush on when I was 16. I saw him a couple of years ago and he was rather round of face and stout of belly... as a kid he was skinnier, but did he always have that face? If so then it's true that love makes you blind... plus that bobbing walk of his that I once thought was so sexy and nonchalant now makes him look like a bobbing duck
Author D-Lish Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Not an ex in my case, but this guy I had a huge crush on when I was 16. I saw him a couple of years ago and he was rather round of face and stout of belly... as a kid he was skinnier, but did he always have that face? If so then it's true that love makes you blind... plus that bobbing walk of his that I once thought was so sexy and nonchalant now makes him look like a bobbing duck And although it sounds so bad to voice it... doesn't it feel so good? My ex was a total bastard....So seeing him and feeling absolutely nothing but a little creeped out made me feel much better.
boldjack Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Well D, This experience should show that time is a great leveler. What if it had been the other way? I went home in June and met an old GF from years back, and she is every bit as hot as I remember and the chemistry was wicked. The important thing was that the emotional involvment was gone. I suspect that you had already moved on , and this meeting was just "icing on the cake", Whatever he looks like now is irrelevant, the important thing is the difference in you.
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