jessicasilver Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 my boyfriend can be so ungrateful and just careless sometimes, i feel as if his pushing me away, as much as i love him, theres a limit to how much pain i can take he went on holiday without me and he hardly contacted me when he had the oppurtunity to. he didnt even tell me what time he would be back, i just had to guess and ring him. when i went on holiday, he couldnt stop texting me and i made sure i texted him every single day because i love him. i told him what time i would be back.... waited for him to call me but he didnt i had to call him, which really hurt! i really dont know what to do at the moment, i know i love him but at the moment i kind of feel numb towards him all them times i have been there for him and been sweet to him.... i feel as if i cant do it anymore and i have no more love to give as im getting nothing back!! i really need advice, i have tried speaking to him about it but he just shouts or tells me im being very stupid! do i stay or do i leave??
juicebox07 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I can't really tell you what to do, but what I can say is that I am going through a very similar situation right now. I feel like I'm giving my boyfriend all this love, and I don't get the same in return. I've tried talking to him about it, but he just turns it into an argument and I end up feeling guilty for saying anything in the first place. I honestly don't know what to do either.
Louise02 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 First, your boyfriend should not be shouting at you or calling you stupid. This is particularly when you are trying to talk to him. Of course, not knowing the whole story, I can't tell you whether to stay or go but having had some terrible treatment from past boyfriends on similar issues I can offer some advice. Some guys are lazy and love women to "need" them and therefore expect them to initiate the contact. Believe me, I know the anger, sadness and anxiety of sadly waiting by the phone for it not to ring. You say that he is hurting you by doing this and that you don't know if you can take the pain. My advice is that you need to weigh up the good and bad in your relationship and figure out if it would hurt you more to go or to stay. From what you've said, it sounds like it's hurting you more to stay. I know that weighing up the good and the bad is much easier said than done. However, what I can tell you is that there ARE guys out there who would not treat you like that and who could not wait to call you and be so very sweet to you. In my book, if you love someone, you treat them how you would like to be treated (your bf seems quite double-standard). The contact should be more or less equal and communication, as a keystone to relationships, should not be that difficult. I'm no expert but that's just my two cents
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