Lucky555 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Self-help books is what i am refering to. I have read why men marry bitches and found it to be a great read and it had helped me see things in my life which were not going good ect. i liked it and it did help with dating. Now how about other books. Has anyone read the rules? I guess I need something to guide me and see warning signs. I just want to take some time out to see others perspectives i suppose.
Art_Critic Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 IMO... No book is better than just going out there and dating.. you figure it all out on your own.. red flags and what you are willing to accept or tolerate or even what you want or don't want in a mate are different for each person and no book or author can tell you how to do it.. "On the Job Training" by Art Critic is my book.. I read it from cover to cover and still haven't figured out women but this book helped get me to where I am today.. happily married and with a wonderful little boy...
xpaperxcutx Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 I have "Why men love B*tches" and I find it a good read, because most of the advices are highly useful in helping women avoid being clingy. I don't think there are any good dating books out there that can fully help you, but I do find some self- help books useful in helping me socialize and better communicate with others. I think there's a book called " How to Make Friends and Influence People? " ? That's really good.
Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 IMO... No book is better than just going out there and dating.. you figure it all out on your own.. red flags and what you are willing to accept or tolerate or even what you want or don't want in a mate are different for each person and no book or author can tell you how to do it.. "On the Job Training" by Art Critic is my book.. I read it from cover to cover and still haven't figured out women but this book helped get me to where I am today.. happily married and with a wonderful little boy... I was replying something similar, but I think you said it pretty well right there.
Island Girl Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Self-help books is what i am refering to. I have read why men marry bitches and found it to be a great read and it had helped me see things in my life which were not going good ect. i liked it and it did help with dating. Now how about other books. Has anyone read the rules? I guess I need something to guide me and see warning signs. I just want to take some time out to see others perspectives i suppose. He's Just Not That Into You. Read it -- it will help you not waste time on guys with little or no interest in a relationship with you.
looking4 green grass Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 The books that completely changed my dating perception: How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk (I wish I would have read this ages ago. It helps you to get to know yourself and helps with relationships....my life changer) He's Just Not That Into You (my friends and I quote it frequently and I don't waste my time on losers anymore. If they want me, they will come and get me. If they don't, too bad for them.) It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken (and I'll never worry about breaking up again....excellent read.)
Hkizzle Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Why men love bitches is a good book. But just one problem, its strategies work well on alpha males that can attract a lot of women. Use the same strategies on a shy, nice, and honest guy and you'll lose him. The reason is the alpha male will see the strategies as a challenge and the woman is raising her value. The nice and honest guy will see her as a bitch and playing games.
Author Lucky555 Posted August 16, 2009 Author Posted August 16, 2009 Thanks for the titles. Has anyone read why mr.right cannot find you? A friend of mine said it was good. She is now in a relationship too..so i think this will be my next read. I find that yes, dating is the best way to find out. I however don't date a lot because I'm not going to waste my time on guys im not interested in or guys who don't want to spend their time with me, or guys that just want to waste my time. After I read why men marry bitches I was saw how i had some things to work on like not being a door mat and calling the person out on their actions, ect. I didn't realize it either until i read the book. I'm in general a people person and like to get along with everyone. I can become friends with just about anyone and I'm sincerely genuine. But in dating its very different. Even though i have been on dates had failed relationships, its been a journey and I'm sick of guys right now. I finally built up some strength lately to get rid of a couple of losers who just keep bugging me. So i just stoped talking to them basically. Its not like we were "officially dating". I think if i take my mind off meeting the right guy and read some books to build my knowledge and help me with seeing what i am doing wrong or what i'm not doing would help me to feel more empowered and ready to date again. I don't take dating advise step by step or think its done this way.But i know from experience its helped me to dodge a few bad apples.
motive2002 Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 He's Just Not That Into You. Read it -- it will help you not waste time on guys with little or no interest in a relationship with you. Is there a companion title for men? She's just not that into you? Going to google it....
Thaddeus Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Two recommendations, one of which I've read, one of which a friend (female) told me about. How to Make Someone Love You Forever in 90 Minutes or Less by Nicholas Boothman. Don't let the awfully cheesy title throw you off. Forget the 90-minute bit; that part's just fluff. But there are some very good insights on how to meet, attract and keep the person that's right for you. (Full disclosure here: I did some work with Nick Boothman in a few of his business seminar presentations. He's one smart dude, has done a ton of research and backs up his claims with - gasp! - verifiable facts.) Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey. Now, I haven't read this but it comes highly recommended and apparently is a good counter-point to that terrible "The Rules" book. And it's actually written by a man, not by two now-divorced and bitter women who think they know how men tick (but clearly have NO idea...) I'm hesitant to put up links because I got my hands slapped for doing that before, but if you do a Google or Bing or your favorite search engine query you'll find them. And check your local library first so you don't have to drop $40 (or whatever) on buying the damn things.
Hkizzle Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I've read Steve Harvey's book, and as a man I think it could be much better written. It's actually pretty narrow in scope and based on his own opinions. It just sold a lot because he's famous and Oprah endorsed him. Anyone's product get on Oprah and it'll sell.
Thaddeus Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 It just sold a lot because he's famous and Oprah endorsed him. Anyone's product get on Oprah and it'll sell.OK, I didn't know that. All I know is that a friend recommended it and said it was a good insight into how a man's mind works. Granted, I haven't read it myself, though I trust the judgement of the person who recommended it.
Trialbyfire Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 He's Just Not That Into You. Read it -- it will help you not waste time on guys with little or no interest in a relationship with you.While self-help books normally make my vision blur, this one I liked. No-nonsense or soft-sell crap. He really isn't that into you.
Scarlett513 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Why Men Love Bitches and He's Just Not That Into You are good reads - in theory. I read and liked them both, but you have to take them with a grain of salt. They're both very black and white and leave little room for gray (which is good sometimes, but let's be realistic...) I love Why Men Love Bitches - I felt like it really wasn't about the man at all, just about being yourself and not taking anyone's crap.
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