How do you get over your ex dating someone else?

[bubcake]

Im fine that we're done. 3 years in college. We were deeply in love but it didnt work lately and we broke it off as we're heading long distance.

But the thought of him with his new , much older, gf is driving me nuts. that he's much happier with him than with me (as he told me during our only post break up fight).

 

How did you cope with this feeling? Is it the same for men as for women?

[bubcake]

Or how did you guys cope with this?

[boogieboy]

Its the same no matter what gender you are. When you see your ex move on without you, while their void is filled and yours is a big gaping hole, the feeling is the same. It sucks. Only time and determination will stop that feeling.

[Starshine Black]

There is a term called Thought Stopping.

 

Google it. You must master it...

[BCCA]

For staters, distance yourself from them and everything about them. Dont let your mind dwell. Truth be told, thinking about an ex after a breakup usually brings up painful memories, anyway, so just do what you can to keep your mind off of them, period.

 

There is a term called Thought Stopping.

 

 

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14703-thought-stopping-in-recovery/

[Trialbyfire]

Here's what I do. Whether it works for you or not, who knows.

 

First, post breakup, I shut off that "ownership" component, in that I'm not his and he's not mine, therefore, we each can do whatever we want to do.

 

Next (yes, yes, it's my ego talking here), I do a comparison. If she's what I would categorize as worse than me, in whatever way(s), it kind of disgusts me. If she's better than me, in whatever way(s), I rationalize it by saying, "well, he would probably have cheated anyways or at least had the grass is greener syndrome". It's key for me that someone has to want to be with me, for all of me, warts and all.