llala Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 I've been in a few relationships in my day. Im 25 at the moment. And im fascinated by the psychology of the dumper /dumpee. Im wondering if people can share their experiences. As a dumper, I've always spent the first 2-3 months barely thinking of the Ex. But then I'd start grieving ALWAYS after that point (or maybe 5 months later). You don't feel much anger, but start to see them in a positive light. Sometimes you wonder if you made the right choice, and feel like you love them for being such an important part of your life. As a dumpee, you usually suffer the first few months, and then feel resentment in the end for having them make you feel as bad as you did. It also depends the way it ended. Also once I broke up mutually, but the guy "put his foot down" after a few weeks and kept NC. In a way, it felt more like he left me because of that. Though i never guessed how he must have felt about it. Even though he loved me dearly.
alphamale Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 As a dumper, I've always spent the first 2-3 months barely thinking of the Ex. But then I'd start grieving ALWAYS after that point (or maybe 5 months later). You don't feel much anger, but start to see them in a positive light. Sometimes you wonder if you made the right choice, and feel like you love them for being such an important part of your life. thats called post-dumping dissonance
oh_no Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 As the dumper, when you felt that way, did you do anything about it? Did you stay in contact then? I guess there would be some dumpers that never really get this feeling too.
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