bede86 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Hey so last night i went out clubbing with this girl (who ive taken to dinner twice in the past 2 weeks and kissed once on the last date) and a few of her friends, soon they left we talked drank and we went back to hers and had sex...now i stayed over the night but had to leave early coz she was having breakfast with her mum who drove down to see her...now last night she said she doesnt want a relationship coz shes not ready (suits me fine). when i asked 'so can we do this again' she goes 'what do you think' (as in yes), she really seemed to have fun and either shes the queen of faking it or we had a great time. Now i said id msg her sunday or somtin, so we could meet up again next week.... i just in the past have had a habbit of not meaning too but comming off needy, like i did ask more than once if i was good and she kept saying 'yes stop asking that' and laughed (big fkn mistake on my part) also i feel maybe i shoulda just gone home and not stayed etc. so should i leave it till sunday or give her a msg or ask how her breakfast was today....im pretty hopeless at all this lol.
Author bede86 Posted August 15, 2009 Author Posted August 15, 2009 yeh ur right, i really dun wanna be needy or seem it so il jus play it cool. i just hope i havnt already done anything to F**** it up.
Starshine Black Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Eh I know how you feel. It's tough sometimes playing the mind games back and forth. You said you'd contact her Sunday, so Sunday is when you should contact her. Part of me wants you to say even wait til monday.. but I don't know enough about her to say if that'd be a good idea. lol
Author bede86 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 hey i msg'd her on monday night askin if she wanted to hang out sometime this week and she goes "im heaps busy this week but im free thursday, did u wanna go see a movie?" so we are goin to the movies 2morrow night...how the hell do i approach the topic of sex again? im still not sure whats happening here but atleast im tolerable enough to see a second time .
Hkizzle Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Dude, just go with the flow....... Do you drive? Are you picking her up? Drive her back to her place, and if she wants to have sex she'll invite you up.
Author bede86 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 yep i drive and im pickin her up and takin her home. Is there anythin I can say when we get back to hers or on the drive home, like 'so u gonna invite us up'...i was in a long term relationship for along time, im rusty and its taken me time (3 months) to come outa my shell and start going out with girls again etc.
DSM2709 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Don't come off too eager, just go with it, play it cool. If "SHE" wants you to come up, she will invite you up. If, not, it's just not the right time...remember, play it cool. DON'T APPEAR TO BE DESPERATE for sex. Keep up posted, good luck.
Author bede86 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 if she doesn wanna do it does that just mean shes not in the mood? like i figure if she had no interest in doin anytin again with me she wouldnt have replied and organised movies etc.
Hkizzle Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 if she doesn wanna do it does that just mean shes not in the mood? like i figure if she had no interest in doin anytin again with me she wouldnt have replied and organised movies etc. Look if you want to ask for sex without saying it. Just say, let's have a drink at your place before I head off. Any girl with half a brain knows if a guy gets into their place there's a chance for sex, but asking for a drink is less direct. If you start stroking her hair, making out, and kissing her neck and she doesn't want sex, then she's not interested. But considering you've already done it and she's suggestive that she's up for it again, I think you're worrying way too much.
Author bede86 Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 well... we went to the movies and when we got back to hers we kissed for awhile in the car and she goes "i really love spending time with you, I cant invite u up tonight i need to be up at 7 but if u come out with me 2morrow il invite you up then" so i went out with her friday we didnt drink or anything just hung out at a bar with some of her friends and then i we went back to hers and yeah . So i take it i now have a friend with benefits? im really rusty at all this and im use to really bad relationships that last 2 months lol. But after we had sex she goes to me "my friends are probably gonna crack onto you if we go out drinking next week, like dont let me stop you from sleeping around just not with my friends" i go "ohh i wouldnt thats messed up"....Like one girl at a time is more than enough for me but its kinda interesting that she doesnt care if i sleep with other girls, and too be honest while i dun care if she does that with guys it still is a lil off putting for me to think bout...strange.
Thomas X Forever Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Two players, having sex for the sake of having sex. I have no idea why people think humanity is doomed.
Author bede86 Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 ....yeh two people having sex...thats dooming humanity...not sure what u mean
Green Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 just play it cool. She may want to date you exclusively but not want to scare you off so she says stuff like you can see other people. If you want you could be like why don't we agree just to see eachother and no one else. You don't have to go all lets call eachother bf and gf and put in a relationship up... but you could say, I like you let just agree not to have sex with any one else but eachother.
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