Author moob Posted August 15, 2009 Author Posted August 15, 2009 Well.. Here is my story, which is long. I am married, with one child, 4 years old. In June of 2008 I was promoted to another position at my company. A girl that I talked to frequently (and told my wife about) was promoted as well. We went to another state for 2 weeks of training. I ended up hanging with her every night in her room (only as friends -- never sexual/anything more). I didn't tell my wife about this but she eventually found out by checking my cell phone records. She confronted me about it when I got off the plane in my home state and I insisted nothing happened, we were only friends (she never liked me having female friends).. Even thought she has cheated on my twice before and I've never cheated on her .. (bear in mind we dated at 16 and have been together since - I'm 27 now).... She always thought I cheated on her, but eventually got over her insecurity. In december we got into a verbal fight, I had been drinking.. she ended up staying with her sister which lived 2 miles away. I apologized for everything and told her I would never drink again.. (which I didn't).. Fast forward to a couple days before Valentine's day.. she told me she didn't have the same feelings for me.. I asked what she wanted me to do.. what could I do to make things better.. she said she didn't know. I asked if she wanted me to leave our house, she said yes, so I left and stayed with my parents. While staying with my parents I began talking to this girl again, I ended up staying at her house several nights (on the couch -- we are just friends.. I usually just didn't want to drive drunk).. Eventually my wife found out about this and became angry.. I asked why, she wanted a divorce so it didn't matter what I did.. We eventually worked things out but she continued to think I had sex with this girl. Then in may after we took a several day vacation at the beach she dropped a bomb on me.. she didn't love me anymore.. I had already sensed problems, asked her if she was OK.. she insisted she was and I began to think I was feeling insecure or just me being the problem. I promptly told her thank god, I'm glad it wasn't me being insecure, it was her. I slept on the couch and lasted 2 days at the house. I eventually left and stayed with my parents again. I found out from a mutual friend that she was moving 1 week prior to the date she called me.. so while she was at work I rented a truck, obtained all my pre-marital items without telling her (2 days prior to her move date)... This pissed her off, she ran over all the yard lights and destroyed them.. She eventually moved out, but during my time away my neighbors called me telling a guy was spending the night. They were angry because the guy was black (I didn't care.. but just to reinforce I live in the south).. I told them I didn't care what she was doing.. I was moving on... (just to reinforce I'm from Seattle.. no racist blood in me).. anways... this went on for a month.. she eventually got an apartment of her own, left the house a mess, emptied the checking the account and left me with $30 for 2 weeks.. turned off the water and ran off with the deposit.. She left the house a mess, which I had to clean up on my own, paint/clean/sort though useless ****... she never helped at all. After about 2 weeks of her telling me she wanted me to use the attorney she was using, I got fed up with her stalling and got my own attorney.. she drafted a settlement agreement.. I told my wife of this .. she got pissed and got her own attorney.. her attorney still hasn't responded in writing to this proposal in the past 2 mos. He doesn't have a secretary and I think maybe he just did an online divorce course for attorneys.... half ass ! Ever since that night together I haven't communicated anything I've been doing and just left her alone. Recently she has started texting me about useless things.. I reply promptly and never really care how I reply.. however she tries to reply in perfect english. For some reason I feel like she wants to work things out, but I tell my self she is a useless whore and I need to move on... but still having hard feelings about it. It just seems like the more I seperate myself from her, the more she contacts me.. Her friends have called me recently, I never pickup nor return their calls. I know she is having money problems due to moving out (she makes 1400/month, her apt is 900/month).. She isn't getting any child support from me since I am paying the full mortgage, utilities .. it evens out.. I just can't shake her .. I want to move on.. but it's hard. Recently she sent a Facebook msg to my mother that was ridiculous.. called her a monster, said she hoped my mom would break an arm, that she was glad she was always in the back of my mom's head.. don't know what brought it on.. my mom hasn't talked to her in months.. Seems like she can't get to me so she is attacking my family/friends. She seemed not to care in the beginning, now she has sent messages on facebook, a myspace title that says "Making my great escape from my biggest Mistake".. I don't have a Myspace/facebook BTW .. I have friends.. haha. It's like she is going through what I went through months ago (which I never voiced to her or tried to work things out)... It should be noted, she did this exact same thing 4 years ago, then months later when I began having fun with friends and doing what I wanted she came crawling back to me... and we worked things out.. or I thought?
mark982 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 well, you can now count 3x's she's cheated on you.why are you even bothering repling to her texts? same craps going to happen again. she gets pizzed at you,finds a new f buddy foe awhile,she gets dumped or money gets tight,and comes crawling back. then you take her back. come on man,you deserve better,why subject yourself to any more of her crap.
Author moob Posted August 15, 2009 Author Posted August 15, 2009 I moved out first and really initiated the divorce at full speed. Just trying to understand this woman's logic. I'm older now and tired of a lot of crap she dishes out to me... Gunny must have been wasted last night or watching platoon.. Haha just kidding... I've been reading his posts for months and know that's how he is... I wish I could just walk away from all this... But with my son I have to talk to her occasionally .. Wish she would be struck by lightning...
Author moob Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Weird past two days. When I dropped off our son it was raining and she made a point to touch my hand when I handed her my umbrella. She looked said when I left and paid her no attention.. Today I leave for work and she ends up dropping off like 5 sheets of old photos of our son even though we had probably taken 300 sheets since he was born.. I'm picking up my son from school Wednesday and now she is coming back again today so I can copy a sheet that let's me pick him up from school. One of my friends seems to think since I locked her out of my life she wants to know what is going on, that's why she keeps texting me... I got curious about her finances (I know I shouldn't had done this) but just wanted to see how she was doing financially. I called the bank and she had like 140 dollars...I know her power bill is overdue by 150 bucks .. Her rent is due on the first and she really doesn't hav enough to make ends meet. I'm afraid she will try to reconcile and I won't keep the pair I have that has grown in the past couple months and take her back... Blah!
mark982 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 all you should care about is your son,if she can't pay or bills,out on the streets she goes.then you can have your son full time,and get cs from her. all she's doing is,every time she get a itch between her legs for some new meat,plays this game and screws w/ your head. just keep on ignoring her,and move on.
Author moob Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Looks like myhealth is suffering from all this garbage. I felt light headed at work yesterday and drove myself to the hospital. Found out my blood pressure was 180/134... Now I'm on blood pressure medicine.. I was able to pickup my son and spend some time with him, she wouldn't allow me to keep him any longer even though I stayed home from work today. I dropped him off at 710 am and she had put on makeup and everything even though she ended up calling an hour later asking if I knew where his bear was. I was asleep and didn't hear the voicemail until hours later.. She spunded half asleep and still in bed...? Why put the makeup on when your just going back to bed?? What a twisted woman...
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