Author Hkizzle Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Yeah the girls I know that have a lot of male friends (not hitting on them) generally are a lot more street smart with men, than the average woman.
loveslife Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I consider it game playing when you manipulate the other person in order to get a desired outcome without regard for that other person's feelings.
BCCA Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Some women do not communicate directly. Some do. Most dont. There are some women who are direct, but these are few and far between. Most of them hint, and you tend to get much more information from what they DONT say. If a woman has a cluster of men in her orbit, you can bet your last dollar that each and every one of them wants to get into her pants. You can also bet that she is well aware of this. There are very few situations in life where guys actually just want to be friends with a woman, most of the time its a front for their desire to sleep with or date the girl. Women often times use this orbit of guys solely for an ego boost. I suggested that she have guy friends from several circles, giving her a broad range of male behavior, rather than just one guy or one group. The problem is that guys hovering around a girl, hoping to get with her, do not provide an honest and accurate example of guys in general. She knows that they are only there because they want her, so that skews their reaction to her and anything she says. Most 'orbiters' dont have the fortitude to tell the girl in question when shes acting like a b**** or being ridiculous, so women just use these guys to validate themselves. As long as this circle of tag alongs tells her shes great, she can do whatever else she wants without worry. This gives her better prospective then getting source data from cosmo or a book written by a woman Be that as it may, they are still going to default to going there anyway. Cosmo and other women tell them what they want to hear.
You'reasian Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Most dont. There are some women who are direct, but these are few and far between. Most of them hint, and you tend to get much more information from what they DONT say. . I agree - this is the way most women are. You can choose not to persue women like this in the end. The problem is that guys hovering around a girl, hoping to get with her, do not provide an honest and accurate example of guys in general. She knows that they are only there because they want her, so that skews their reaction to her and anything she says. Most 'orbiters' dont have the fortitude to tell the girl in question when shes acting like a b**** or being ridiculous, so women just use these guys to validate themselves. As long as this circle of tag alongs tells her shes great, she can do whatever else she wants without worry. . I know what you mean. All it takes is one guy with a backbone to tell her that what she's doing is wrong. While it might not get through, it could certainly plant the idea. Over time, other guys with backbones will probably say the same thing. Eventually she'll figure this out. Be that as it may, they are still going to default to going there anyway. Cosmo and other women tell them what they want to hear. They'll eventually figure out with enough experience. We guys don't behave like Cosmo suggests.
BCCA Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I agree - this is the way most women are. You can choose not to persue women like this in the end. Well, I can chose not to pursue women in general, you are correct. But saying that I can just not pursue women who act this way is basically cutting out 99.9% of them. I know what you mean. All it takes is one guy with a backbone to tell her that what she's doing is wrong. While it might not get through, it could certainly plant the idea. Over time, other guys with backbones will probably say the same thing. Eventually she'll figure this out. The problem is that this guy with a backbone is of such little importance to her that shes going to cut him out all together before she listens to him. As long as she can validate herself by getting a couple more leeches to tell her that her s**t doesnt stink, what the guy with the backbone said is irrelevant. She'll figure it out as she gets older, and the leeches get harder to find. She'll change because she has to, but not until then. Thats why you see people turn 35 and they dont understand dating anymore, because what used to work doesnt anymore. Guys do this, too. They'll eventually figure out with enough experience. We guys don't behave like Cosmo suggests. They will if they have to so they can get a date. As long as guys still ask them out, even they end up being douches or it doesnt work out, they are still getting validation that they are date-able, which = no need to change. No one changes unless they really want to or have to.
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