gypsi Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I honestly dont know whats going on with me she broke up with me almost 6 months ago, this is the longest i have gone without Contact after i heard she slept with someone else on holiday, im literally back to feeling like i did the first few weeks after the break up, i am falling to pieces again is this normal after so long?? I love her so much i want her back with all my heart...i feel like this is never going to end, should i go to therapy?
bella16 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 You got this far... do you really want to start all over again from the beginning? You are doing great...do not bring yourself down. My ex broke things off a little over a month ago and I can't go more than 5 days without contacting him. It is the hardest thing I've ever done. Now we are talking again and taking things slowly (his request) bc I started to really back off and wasn't so needy like before. If we do get back together I know exactly what to do to make things work. Please keep up the good work. 33 days is amazing. Do not bring yourself back to where you started. I know its difficult but you will get through it in the end. When you least expect it, who knows what can happen...she may be wondering what you are doing.
silic0ntoad Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I know it's hard, but you have to see it through to the end. First. Stop counting days. It's going to drive you even closer to the brink every single day the number grows. Second. If she slept with someone else, that should add fuel to the fire that consumed your relationship. I am sure while you are hurt, you are probably angry. Harness the anger to aid your recovery. Finally. Keep on the right track. Don't call her. She doesn't deserve your attention. She shouldn't be on a pedastal, not anymore. She isn't good enough for you. You are too good for this treatment. Put your fot down and say to hell with this. I am a man, I got a pair, and I am through with being treated like a boy.
angelface78 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 DONT CALL HER PLEASE IM ON DAY 58...YOURE RIGHT BEHIND ME....DONT DO IT!!! WE WILL HELP YOU BE STRONG!! SHE'S NOT WORTH IT. yOU WILL FEEL WORSE IF YOU CALL AND HAVE TO START ALL OVER.
Author gypsi Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 wish i was angry at her i just feel like this is all my fault i messed up so badly she just wont give me another chance! Because i messed up so badly now she is busy screwing someone else...this pain is unbearable i blocked the images from my head and now they are just popping up i cant get rid of them, she would normally atleast text me once every 3 weeks now i dont hear a thing from her. I am still so in love with her its ridicilous, i wont text her or email her thanks for the support people. Its hard to man up when you are whipped.
angelface78 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Think about this...just cause she screws someone doesnt mean it was even good. Lol.. Seriously...what if it sucked?? Better for you!! We always think the worse. Bottom line if she loves you she will realize it!
hoping2heal Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I honestly dont know whats going on with me she broke up with me almost 6 months ago, this is the longest i have gone without Contact after i heard she slept with someone else on holiday, im literally back to feeling like i did the first few weeks after the break up, i am falling to pieces again is this normal after so long?? I love her so much i want her back with all my heart...i feel like this is never going to end, should i go to therapy? It is normal yes, and it also is a good sign. When we heal things go bad, get a bit better..and then BOOM they get what seems like "the worst yet" and that phase, is followed by moving on. Doesn't mean it takes place quickly no, it can take any amount of time; but things do get better before they get worse. I know that's happened with me everytime; bad..better..AWFUL...acceptance/moved on. 1
Author gypsi Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 lol angelface i am REALLY hoping it was horrible i know thats mean of me but i cant help it but my mind is telling me it was good because i dont hear from her. Apart of me want to go out and do the same for some reason, I know she loves me but she says "Love is not enough" Wow i am impressed on how long you have gone with NC! You are my motivation. Thanks hopingtoheal i was really worrying about my own sanity things were going so well and then BOOM total meltdown out of nowhere, 3 days straight now i am just so tired of feeling like this its draining the life out of me. First true love, first heartbreak and me the dumb one to screw everything up first real guilt trip to. Think thats what makes it harder to move on.
Taucher Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 wish i was angry at her i just feel like this is all my fault i messed up so badly she just wont give me another chance! Because i messed up so badly now she is busy screwing someone else...this pain is unbearable i blocked the images from my head and now they are just popping up i cant get rid of them, she would normally atleast text me once every 3 weeks now i dont hear a thing from her. I am still so in love with her its ridicilous, i wont text her or email her thanks for the support people. Its hard to man up when you are whipped. I honestly dont know whats going on with me she broke up with me almost 6 months ago, this is the longest i have gone without Contact after i heard she slept with someone else on holiday, im literally back to feeling like i did the first few weeks after the break up, i am falling to pieces again is this normal after so long?? I love her so much i want her back with all my heart...i feel like this is never going to end, should i go to therapy? No words of advice I am afraid. Just empathy, as I am going through exactly what you describe. My ex left me 3 months ago TODAY. Last two weeks I have been feeling better and then I looked at her Facebook (see my other thread Facebook strikes again I know you did cos you replied - thanks) and saw her smiling, happy gorgeous face in a new photo on her profile. I now realise that I am not as over this as I thought. I am not over her at all. I love her. Now, I have gone back to feeling like I did in the first couple of weeks. It's madness. I dont think you need thrapy though, but I am in no way an expert. Like you, I wish I was angry at her, I wish I hated her. Sometimes I think I DO hate her. But really, I just hate myself a little bit. You are doing great with NC. Me and my ex have managed 8 days but she texted me again today, asking for my bank details (she owed me money). T T
Author gypsi Posted August 15, 2009 Author Posted August 15, 2009 i know this is kind of personal to write but its been bothering me for a while...im trying to get over her so im using this. Well we had a mini fight one weekend just me being a dick coz i had alot of **** with my family and i took it out on her we did make up an i apologized at the end of the weekend about it thought she was fine. When i went to go visit her during the week she was quite and distant not herself then she went down on me....and a short while after she sat down and broke up with me because of the fight the previous weekend and thing i said to her she felt we need to see other people???? This broke my heart and screwed with my head i cried and felt like **** and she said sorry we both cried and got back togheter untill i messed up the next weekend because i was still very hurt over her breaking up with me. She has issues too right?
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