alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I'm meeting this girl Kara who seems to be half black and half white tonite for drinks and appetizers at Zed451 downtown. Its a pretty upscale place. I've never gone out with a girl from this background before. Is there anything i should be wary of or any subjects i should not bring up in polite drunken discussion?
Starshine Black Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I just want to know why someone who goes around bragging about his guide to keep women around, hasn't been keeping any woman around.
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 I just want to know why someone who goes around bragging about his guide to keep women around, hasn't been keeping any woman around. i'm playing the field
boldjack Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Alpha, how about treating her like an adult woman, instead of an adult mixed-race woman, for starters. Don't worry about making any dumb statements, you probably will, and she will probably not mind, if she is attracted to you. Nothing is more uncomfortable than a date where the people are not conversing, they are trying to over- analyze their words. If you like her and she likes you then you have no problem. Don't try to create one.
tigressA Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Like boldjack said, treat her like an adult woman. I'm from the same background and have dated white guys (I'm assuming you're white as well). If anything, I'd have to say, don't be the one to bring up any race-related issue--that might make her feel like you're just fixating on that difference between you or that she's some exotic new plaything--you did say you've never dated anyone from her background before. I've been made to feel that way and it is a huge turn-off.
Art_Critic Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Is there anything i should be wary of or any subjects i should not bring up in polite drunken discussion? Maybe your " Splooge thread " for starters... Alpha.. cut back on the booze some.. I'm not saying eliminate drinking but just cut back.. Sooner or later dating for you will become about conversation and the person you are with instead of food and drink and when that happens you will stop playing the field as you say and buckle down and start enjoying yourself Just have fun.. and race shouldn't play a role here.. neither should the place you are eating or the drinking games...
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 Alpha, how about treating her like an adult woman, instead of an adult mixed-race woman, for starters. Don't worry about making any dumb statements, you probably will, and she will probably not mind, if she is attracted to you. Nothing is more uncomfortable than a date where the people are not conversing, they are trying to over- analyze their words. If you like her and she likes you then you have no problem. Don't try to create one. yea i already know that stuff, this thread is more tongue-in-cheek as i'm bored right now (I'm assuming you're white as well). i'm brown, east indian brown to be more specific
tigressA Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Ah, okay. I assumed because you started a thread about it, and based on my experiences, most guys who tend to make a big deal about dating girls from different racial/ethnic backgrounds are white. "Never, ever assume..."
OpenBook Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 In my experience (with friendships), mixed-race chicks seem to be more highly-evolved than most of the rest of us. They have strong personalities, are confident in their own abilities, opinionated, with lots of emotional intelligence, and are socially adept - possibly because of having experienced both sides of the fence... or neither (not completely fitting in with either "side", they've had to learn to stand on their own two feet). Good luck Alpha - I hope you'll be able to measure up to her. :laugh:
girl68 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 This is totally offensive! As a mixed girl myself- I'd be like "umm, seriously?" if I knew my date actually had to ask what to not talk to me about. Don't bring up anything to do with what you just posted here. Wait: ask her if her name originates from africa.... when you get a blank, offended look add... "well you're black right? some black? part black? half perhaps?" You'll bed her FOR SURE... if you do this.
You'reasian Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Focus on her - appreciate how attractive she is. Her personality. Her vibes. Enjoy!
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 ... mixed-race chicks seem to be more highly-evolved than most of the rest of us. They have strong personalities, are confident in their own abilities, opinionated, with lots of emotional intelligence, and are socially adept - possibly because of having experienced both sides of the fence.... yea yea thats her Wait: ask her if her name originates from africa.... when you get a blank, offended look add... "well you're black right? some black? part black? half perhaps?" You'll bed her FOR SURE... if you do this. ok i'm going to ask her if "Kara" originates from africa
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 Focus on her - appreciate how attractive she is. Her personality. Her vibes. Enjoy! i hear you Yo' - but it'll be hard not to focus on what look to be her set of 36C or 38D breasts
sally4sara Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Why are most of your posts about the ethnicity of the girl who actually consented to date you? It really gives you a sleezy vibe. If you can't see past a person's ethnicity, you might have better luck dating within your own.
You'reasian Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 i hear you Yo' - but it'll be hard not to focus on what look to be her set of 36C or 38D breasts Focus on them later...
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 heres a pic http://photos2.meetupstatic.com/photos/event/2/9/1/3/600_10090515.jpeg
lovebubble Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 ??? @ this question. i think you just wanted to let us know that you had a date. nice. she's a woman. her race is irrelevant, you're '' other '' as well so, i don't see why you wouldn't know stuff that would/wouldn't offend. it's a first date so, keep it light, of course.
girl68 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 ok i'm going to ask her if "Kara" originates from africa Given that she has a "strong" personality as I do myself, because I'm mixed, so of course I'm just as described. Trust me, she's going to pick up on your dirty eyes staring at her cleavage. (Show some class). And obviously, you didn't catch my sarcasm, and if you did- no shiet sherlock don't ask that!
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 Why are most of your posts about the ethnicity of the girl who actually consented to date you? It really gives you a sleezy vibe. If you can't see past a person's ethnicity, you might have better luck dating within your own. because i've dated white chicks almost exclusively in the past. i'm branching out and living outside the box now.
girl68 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Don't you think it's kinda rude to be posting a picture of a gal who has probably NOT consented to you posting it on forms seeking advice on how to date a "mixed race" girl?
You'reasian Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Don't you think it's kinda rude to be posting a picture of a gal who has probably NOT consented to you posting it on forms seeking advice on how to date a "mixed race" girl? I agree. I don't think she would appreciate that.
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 Don't you think it's kinda rude to be posting a picture of a gal who has probably NOT consented to you posting it on forms seeking advice on how to date a "mixed race" girl? thats a public picture for which her consent was already give
sally4sara Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 because i've dated white chicks almost exclusively in the past. i'm branching out and living outside the box now. But the fact that you commonly assume it will be so wildly different as to require an advise forum, really makes you come off racist. What do you think is going to happen due to her being mixed; she might force you to tribal line dance with her? Come on man, just relax. Something about you appealed to her enough that she agreed to go out with you. You'll only ruin it if you over analyze her physical appearance and make it all about her ethnicity. If her ethnicity is going to come into play it will be well after she has gotten comfortable with you enough to be herself. That won't be tonight.
northstar1 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 yea i already know that stuff, this thread is more tongue-in-cheek as i'm bored right now i'm brown, east indian brown to be more specific I have a soft spot for east indian girls.
Author alphamale Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 But the fact that you commonly assume it will be so wildly different as to require an advise forum, really makes you come off racist. What do you think is going to happen due to her being mixed; she might force you to tribal line dance with her? Come on man, just relax. Something about you appealed to her enough that she agreed to go out with you. You'll only ruin it if you over analyze her physical appearance and make it all about her ethnicity. If her ethnicity is going to come into play it will be well after she has gotten comfortable with you enough to be herself. That won't be tonight. i haven't dated many non-white girls so i'm sort of going into unchartered waters here. that's all. I have a soft spot for east indian girls. not me
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