highwind Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 My boyfriend whom I am in a long distance relationship, is currently undergoing alot of stress, hes so worked up he wants to do things to himself such as cutting himself and thinks about suicide, I am the only thing holding him on, but I don't get why hes so upset and in such a frenzy :\, I can't seem calm him down, I love him so much but.. I am not sure what to do, can anyone suggest anything?
Thaddeus Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 This is deadly - and I do use that word literally - serious. Use the internet and find a crisis hotline in his area, then give him that information. Unless you're a psychologist, you're in no position to be his counsellor. He needs serious, professional help. Not tomorrow. But before the sun goes down today.
hoping2heal Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Yes, do what thaddeus says. This has nothing to do with you and you won't be the person to fix it. He needs serious help immediately, do not wait.
aerogurl87 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 My boyfriend whom I am in a long distance relationship, is currently undergoing alot of stress, hes so worked up he wants to do things to himself such as cutting himself and thinks about suicide, I am the only thing holding him on, but I don't get why hes so upset and in such a frenzy :\, I can't seem calm him down, I love him so much but.. I am not sure what to do, can anyone suggest anything? Ok girl I'm gonna tell you from personal experience to let him go now. He needs help and if you stay with him he will drain you emotionally and mentally. I just got out of a long distance relationship with a guy who was suicidal and it led to me having an emotional breakdown. People like that need help and you can't provide it for them on your own. I know it will be hard to let go because God knows it was hard to let my boyfriend go, but when you look back on everything you will be so happy that you did. In order to be in a healthy relationship you need to be able to love yourself first and he obviously doesn't if he's suicidal. Tell him you can be there for him as a friend but don't cross that line. It's much harder to let go the longer you stay involved, so leave now for your own sanity.
You'reasian Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 My boyfriend whom I am in a long distance relationship, is currently undergoing alot of stress, hes so worked up he wants to do things to himself such as cutting himself and thinks about suicide, I am the only thing holding him on, but I don't get why hes so upset and in such a frenzy :\, I can't seem calm him down, I love him so much but.. I am not sure what to do, can anyone suggest anything? Where is he cutting himself?
SophieA Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 He needs immediate professional help. PLEASE do NOT wait.
Island Girl Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 This is deadly - and I do use that word literally - serious. Use the internet and find a crisis hotline in his area, then give him that information. Unless you're a psychologist, you're in no position to be his counsellor. He needs serious, professional help. Not tomorrow. But before the sun goes down today. Seriously OP -- you need to follow through on this. You can't do anything to get him thinking more clearly and to help him realize harming himself is not an option and does not help. He may have an underlying undiagnosed mental condition as well. A doctor can help him with these things as well as providing a way for him to learn other coping skills so life does not get so overwhelming for him. He really does need to be seeking professional help.
Gamine Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Contact his parents or siblings and let them know about what is going on. I have had personal experience with this twice and both times it resulted in the suicide. No matter what you do you cannot fix someone inside. You cannot fix this man. I thought I would be the difference between someone living or dying and I handed my life and energy to help prevent it. However, all I really did was not take the seriousness of it for what it really was.
Island Girl Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Contact his parents or siblings and let them know about what is going on. I have had personal experience with this twice and both times it resulted in the suicide. No matter what you do you cannot fix someone inside. You cannot fix this man. I thought I would be the difference between someone living or dying and I handed my life and energy to help prevent it. However, all I really did was not take the seriousness of it for what it really was. Absolutely. You should make sure people close to him know what is happening. I hope you are listening...
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