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I Luv the Chariot OH Established Member

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No no no, and I also echo Thaddeus.

 

Lizzie, I don't agree with you in the slightest, but you're smokin' in those pants.

RedDevil66 Established Member

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I am certain that 99.9% of ALL men would..

 

Those who say they would NEVER ever cheat... are either single, have already cheated.. or are still in the 'honeymoon' phase.. :o

 

100% agree, most men would cheat if they knew they can get away with it.

xpaperxcutx Established Member

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A man would cheat provided the instigation for cheating is higher and stronger than their reasoning for why they shouldn't cheat.

 

It's similar to having a buffet placed in front of you and the inability to turn down eating the food. That is unless you have a strong self control.

Trimmer Established Member

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A man would cheat provided the instigation for cheating is higher and stronger than their reasoning for why they shouldn't cheat.

While I agree with you, I don't think this is a very conclusive statement, as it describes essentially ALL of human behavior. That just collapses the question into: would someone behave in a particular way if the stimulus to do the thing is greater than the inhibition? Well, um, yes.

 

The question, put in those terms, is: would simply "the guarantee of not being discovered" be sufficient, by itself, to remove all other inhibitions to cheating? Lizzie's opinion is that this would be true for 99.5 or 99.9% of men, depending on which day you ask her.

 

I grant that it is probably higher than the actual rate of cheating males (i.e. that for SOME men who don't cheat, their dominant inhibition to cheating is the fear of being caught) but I don't believe it's in the high 99% range, or anything like it.

Trialbyfire Established Member

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No, I wouldn't cheat regardless. I couldn't live with myself, if I did it.

 

I think most people have dealbreaker limits within themselves, with themselves.

dreamergrl Established Member

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I've had to live with many other mistakes in my life, some that took a long time for me to forgive myself for. I would not want to live knowing I was cheating.

boldjack Established Member

boldjack

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<<<<<<<Dreamergrl>>>>>>:love::D

dreamergrl Established Member

dreamergrl

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<<<<<<<Dreamergrl>>>>>>:love::D

 

That would be me, how may I help you?

boldjack Established Member

boldjack

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Nothing. I just wanted you to know how much of a "stand up ", lady, I think you are!!:D:D

dreamergrl Established Member

dreamergrl

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Nothing. I just wanted you to know how much of a "stand up ", lady, I think you are!!:D:D

 

LOL Thanks Jack

Rudderless Established Member

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No, I have a sensitive conscience.

 

I feel a little sorry for the women on this thread that have such a low opinion of men. I don't see how you can ever have a relationship with one.

johan Established Member

johan

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If you could cheat and felt there was NO possibility of detection (absolutely none), while giving a lot of pleasure to you and the other man/woman in the affair, would you do it?

 

I think everyone who is about to cheat thinks this is exactly the situation they are in.

Hkizzle Established Member

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While I agree with you, I don't think this is a very conclusive statement, as it describes essentially ALL of human behavior. That just collapses the question into: would someone behave in a particular way if the stimulus to do the thing is greater than the inhibition? Well, um, yes.

 

The question, put in those terms, is: would simply "the guarantee of not being discovered" be sufficient, by itself, to remove all other inhibitions to cheating? Lizzie's opinion is that this would be true for 99.5 or 99.9% of men, depending on which day you ask her.

 

I grant that it is probably higher than the actual rate of cheating males (i.e. that for SOME men who don't cheat, their dominant inhibition to cheating is the fear of being caught) but I don't believe it's in the high 99% range, or anything like it.

 

I like this analysis. The main inhibition to cheating is the chance of getting caught but even if this was removed I think only 60-80% of men would cheat, it's not as high as 99%.

Woggle Established Member

Woggle

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I have never cheated and I never will. I have a number of faults but I am an honest man and I intend to stay that way. If a woman is not worth staying faithful to then I should break up with her first.

neowulf Established Member

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Having cheated, I would say the horrific feelings of guilt, shame and self-loathing were enough to cure me of *ever* crossing that bridge again.

 

So. Not. Worth. It.

LeXmaRk New Member

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No because it would defeat the purpose of being in a relationship. I also find cheating to be a lack of self control and is only done by weak minded individuals.

dunstable Established Member

dunstable

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As an aside, I endorse Boldjack's compliment to Dreamergirl having admired many of her posts in other threads!

 

I'm heartened by the fact that virtually everyone has said that the issue here isn't the probability of being caught cheating but about the need to live with one's conscience.

 

Being faithful because one is scared of being caught out is a very shallow kind of fidelity. Being faithful when one could cheat and get away with it is really something to be proud of.

Chia1 Member

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Cheat? I don't get why I should cheat. Not only does it eat you from the inside, it may also bring stds. For me its a no no. As well as casual sex. I'd rather have it from someone I trust. In this case, my girlfriend

SueBee3490 Established Member

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No have never cheated on anyone and never will.

 

Because even if you did get away with it - how do you feel about yourself afterward? What - big deal - you can look in the mirror the next morning and say "Hey I'm so happy I just got away with cheating on someone I love." What kind of feeling is that?

 

There's a quote that goes something like..

Your true character is not how you act when people are watching - it's how you act when no one is watching.

onthebrinkofitall Member

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No.. why would you cheat if you're commited to someone? It shouldn't be about "not getting caught." If you're unhappy enough to feel you need to stray.. or if the sex is lacking, break up with your partner and see other people or suggest an open relationship but be prepared to share your partner, as well. If it's the sex.. talk to your partner about it and try to work on some new techniques.

 

Cheating on someone will eat away at you, even if you never get caught. It's about having morals, a conscience, and consideration for your partner. Try to think about how you would feel if you were the one being cheated on. Would it be ok if you never found out? I don't think so.

You'reasian Established Member

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If you could cheat and felt there was NO possibility of detection (absolutely none), while giving a lot of pleasure to you and the other man/woman in the affair, would you do it?

 

Nope. Not a good thing to do.

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