Island Girl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 What I have experienced in the past, is being stopped at clubs by men putting themselves in my way or having my arm grabbed. My ex-H used to come up behind me, put one or both arms around me and through look and physical presence, back the guys down. Straight up, this is the kind of man I'm drawn to, the dominant male. I won't try to justify or change what I'm attracted to. It is what it is. My man would protect me and defend me if the need presented itself. All things within reason. He is extremely rational when it comes to physical altercations. Quite amazing actually because to look at him you'd think he'd be the one throwing his size around. It is the opposite. MANY times we have been out somewhere and a smaller guy will just come over and start needling at him. In all cases but one he was able to talk the guy(s) down and get him/them to chill out. Like TBF I like what I like. Big and strong, confident not cocky, with really great common sense. Oh and willing to step up if necessary but ONLY if necessary.
C-i-C-u Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 My man would protect me and defend me if the need presented itself. All things within reason. He is extremely rational when it comes to physical altercations. Quite amazing actually because to look at him you'd think he'd be the one throwing his size around. It is the opposite. MANY times we have been out somewhere and a smaller guy will just come over and start needling at him. In all cases but one he was able to talk the guy(s) down and get him/them to chill out. Like TBF I like what I like. Big and strong, confident not cocky, with really great common sense. Oh and willing to step up if necessary but ONLY if necessary.See Im a little guy 5'7 and I get accosted by big guys like 6'2 and above. And when I do, people-women especially-always take take the big guys side. That I was the aggressor. This one time, this 6'3 guy gave me a really nasty look-the type of look where you get very uncomfortable-so I shrugged and said you got a problem? And he got out of his car and threw a punch at me. But missed and in a couple of seconds i got him on the ground and started to punch him. I knew who the guy was, he is a real jerk and think he is God's gift to the world because he is tall and that makes him great. So the cops came because someone called and the witness who called them said I was the aggressor, and the big guy was saying the same thing. And the cops took their side and talked me down and treated me like garbage. They handcuffed me. The charges were later dropped. I learned a valuable lesson then, most guys, the ones who start chit normally are bad fighters who depend on brute force to win fights. And they normally are the ones who start them too.. I only know wrestling, so I depend on that to get me out of altercations. But I learned that people being people they will defend the person they'd want to most hang out with and be buddies with. I'am not that guy because i am not very outgoing.
clv0116 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 .... Fighting off one attacker - approrpiate. Trying to fight off a guy with a gun - inapprorpiate. .... The tricky part is ... how do you know who has a gun and who doesn't? By escalating things until the gun comes out one has done the opposite of protect, right? After the gun comes out, the bullets tend to follow so good luck. .... not unless you got a gun too and you know he cant shoot for sh%t ... Now I have to wonder what a good marksman looks like compared to a poor one.
Ilovecake Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Oh my god I totally dated a guy like that, it was awful and it made me feel extremely untracked to him. I don't like bullies but I don't like cowards either. Man or woman I think you have to be able to stand up for yourself in certain situations. We were actually fallowed one night by a crazy person holding a broom handle and threatening us. The guy I was with totally clammed up and I had to defend both of us. I always told him he was such a chicken **** that he would probably just stand there if I was getting stabbed. He also never stood up for himself and would constantly get ripped off because of it. This is a 32 year old man who would come home upset because high school girls on the bus were making fun of him.
fatamus Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Oh my god I totally dated a guy like that, it was awful and it made me feel extremely untracked to him. I don't like bullies but I don't like cowards either. Man or woman I think you have to be able to stand up for yourself in certain situations. We were actually fallowed one night by a crazy person holding a broom handle and threatening us. The guy I was with totally clammed up and I had to defend both of us. I always told him he was such a chicken **** that he would probably just stand there if I was getting stabbed. He also never stood up for himself and would constantly get ripped off because of it. This is a 32 year old man who would come home upset because high school girls on the bus were making fun of him. You have no idea how many "guys" tremble when confronted with even the slightest danger. clv0116, if you shoot enough you can tell who can shoot and who cant just by the way they draw/grip position/etc. My comment was half a joke, no gunfight is ever safe and is the last resort but ive seen a few guys hit everything BUT what they were aiming it on the street.
clv0116 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 clv0116, if you shoot enough you can tell who can shoot and who cant just by the way they draw/grip position/etc. Sure, and I'd say by the time one observes this it's a bit late to decide whether one wants to fight or not.
Island Girl Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 See Im a little guy 5'7 and I get accosted by big guys like 6'2 and above. And when I do, people-women especially-always take take the big guys side. A guy like that is a bully. I wouldn't "take the big boy's side" simply because he is the bigger guy. When my husband has been needled, it is pretty clear that is what is going on I assure you. We walk in and go sit at the bar. We are sitting there chatting, getting our drinks, and here comes some guy who starts in on my husband mostly about his size and that he must think he is soooo tough, prove it, etc. My husband, to his credit, has the laid back island attitude of "we're all broddas man" and talks to the guy about what he is doing in an attempt to get him to just simmer down and leave us alone. Some guys have a Napoleon complex. It's so very true.
Shin0bi1 Posted September 30, 2009 Posted September 30, 2009 Fighting is just not worth it. Most likely alcohol and drugs are involved and make people act stupid and especially in large groups with mob mentality. Guys, someone disses your lady, tell them to apologize and if it escalates tell your lady that you are sorry but these apes are out of control and that you are leaving for both of your safeties. Notify the establishment and then walk out. It's not worth going to jail, or breaking your knuckles, getting teeth knocked out, getting curb stomped, and having a pool stick upside your head and possibly giving you a concussion or getting stabbed in the stomach with a broken beer bottle. The worst is getting knocked out from behind and having the dude and his homies piss on you for humilation fun.... Your lady will appreciate you more for diffusing the situation in a calm manner versus acting like a raging animal. Now if you are ever in a situation where there is no way out and both of your lives are in danger. You then have her call 911 on the cellphone immediately and have her stay on the line while you are in front of her and make sure you know the environment around you. Make sure you and your lady have your backs to a wall and grab anything that you can defend yourself with such as garbage cans, etc. A jacket works great with knives for grappling purposes btw. Once you see an opening run like a running back does when he is going his route- you might only have one opportunity for you and your lady and you will have to make an escape immediately. It could be as simple as taking money out and throwing it at them to distract them and soon as they go for it run for the nearest one and knock him down with your lady right up on your six. Run as fast as you can and make sure she is barefooted because she will break and/or sprain her ankle running on high heels. Always try to remain calm despite your adrenaline and plan 2-3 steps ahead to prepare for any possible scenarios. Like grabbing the pepper shaker on your way out of the bar knowing that the thugs are gonna following you out of the bar. This way you can incapictate one of them if they are try to jump you and your lady friend in the alleyway. Peppers in the eyes means game over..no more fighting for that dude. -Shin0bi1
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