boogieboy Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 haha, alrighty o's it's true, with the combined of all the emails, there is something i don't like but can't pinpoint. it could be the fact that i don't have my picture up so he seems to give me the vibe that he thinks he's "better" than me, therefore he has the upperhand, but yes, i'll go out for coffee and see what happens. ahaha, i'll keep you guys posted =) Why dont you have your picture up?
Trimmer Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 haha, alrighty o's it's true, with the combined of all the emails, there is something i don't like but can't pinpoint. it could be the fact that i don't have my picture up so he seems to give me the vibe that he thinks he's "better" than me, therefore he has the upperhand, but yes, i'll go out for coffee and see what happens. Well, we can only go on the raw data you supplied, and based on what you gave us, it doesn't sound unusual at all. However, you do sound like you have a tendency to pick apart and trigger on subtle hidden meanings in your text interactions with him, so without expecting you to defend them, I would suggest that maybe you are overly sensitive and/or defensive, perhaps as a result of your previous experience. For example, I'm wondering how you not having your picture up leads to a vibe that he thinks he's "better" than you? I'm not saying ignore your instincts, but I just wonder if you're a little sensitive from your previous experience, so you may be looking for ANY little thing to pick apart?
Crow9726 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Instead of overanalyzing and driving yourself crazy over this...why don't the two of you progress to talking on the phone...and then set a time and place to meet if the "connection" is still there. More and more I see people who only communicate over text or email...and since meanings can become misconstrued so easily on those mediums...they worry themselves into a state of almost utter panic. One of you pick up the phone and call the other.
WTRanger Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 Would you rather have him say, "Hi! Want to go out for drinks? I'll get you so drunk that I'll take you back to my place. After showing you my knife and gun collections, I'll try to force myself on you and not pay any attention to your words. No will mean Yes and Stop will be double Yes." Jesus tap dancing Christ! Coffee is safe, the first time I meet someone I tend to like myself and them to stay sober. As someone said, who cares what's in the glass? It's about the connection! Or are you ashamed that instead of a $12 drink he's such a cheap skate that he's only willing to spring for a $6 cup of Joe??? What is it possible that you don't like? He asked you out! Women are always bitching about guys never taking initiative, this guy does that and now you are all analyzing everything he does before you've even met him in person. The fact that he's willing to ask you out and never seen a picture of you is a good thing. I always ignore no picture profiles. I assume it's either a guy, a pre-op tranny, or hogzilla.
Soul Bear Posted August 16, 2009 Posted August 16, 2009 Too much analysing! Barf on him already! Agreed. Relationships shouldn't be this hard work at the start..... I believe you either click and flow on both sides (at least in some way or other, besides a physical attraction....click and flow in also an unsaid trust of some sort between BOTH parties) or just not work...at least for the time being.
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