BW007 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 The reason I ask, is that I think the site may focus my attention towards my ex, talking about my ex, contemplating why I am still thinking of my ex, wondering about the things she did, the things I did. Should I just let it die for a while? Don't get me wrong... I think this site may have saved my ass. When I first found it, I was as close to unhinged as I have ever been in my life. This is no joke or exaggeration. I don't know how I would have gotten through some of my darkest, most terrible moments. It was freakin' grim. Still is at times... but I think I have to limit it to when I have a specific crisis or new problem that I can't answer for myself. I am not going to do this today or even this week, it just occurred to me that while really helping me, this place makes me think of her too, which is not moving on. Does anyone else feel that way?
northstar1 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 It may not be a bad idea if you are finding that coming to the site daily is just keeping your focus on things. I know I took some time off last year when I was on the site all the time. If you do decide to take a break , make sure you do come back and check in. Also, when you are in a better place, you will be able to help others going through their own coping.
Author BW007 Posted August 14, 2009 Author Posted August 14, 2009 I think that you are right.. It is like this place is where I come to hope for things to be different or better. I have had a lot of encouragement to stay strong, keep NC, choose myself. I need a beautiful woman who loves me or at least really likes me to kiss me hard and stick her tongue down my throat. It is time. I am fed up with sadness.
northstar1 Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I think that you are right.. It is like this place is where I come to hope for things to be different or better. I have had a lot of encouragement to stay strong, keep NC, choose myself. I need a beautiful woman who loves me or at least really likes me to kiss me hard and stick her tongue down my throat. It is time. I am fed up with sadness. It will happen. The sadness will ebb and you will find someone new when the time is right. I know I kept coming here hoping to find a story that would give me the 'answer' or hope. I did get a lot of good advice and perspective, but I also realized I needed a time out from it try try and shift my focus elsewhere.
Soul Bear Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Get off the coping and breakup /section chance sections for a while...The more you have your mind on one topic constantly, the more you will go into gloom and doom... There is loads of other funny and interesting topics about. Trythe water cooler, personal rants and confessions or the dating section... Rhey all have some humerous threads and posts
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