aerogurl87 Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months. It was both the hardest and best decision I ever made. Come to find out he got a girlfriend the day after our breakup although the morning before he had just told me that he loved me, I was the one, etc. He was an unstable person who was emotionally and mentally abusive but I stayed because I loved him. Now that I look back on things he never did really love me, I can see that from his actions. But he did teach me something about myself and I thank him for that. He taught me how to love someone unconditionally, how to be selfless, and how to become a stronger person. I'm still heartbroken but I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. As weird as it may sound I still believe in true love despite everything I went through, and I know my soulmate is still out there somewhere waiting for me.
NightLord1 Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 If he taught you something form all that to make yourself a better person thats always a good thing despite how bad it had to come. Being with an emotionally and mentally abusive person is a constant wheel of torture as I know this only too well with some women I have been with in the past who would do this to me. Now maybe you know the signs of a person who is like this so you won't fall into the same trap again with someone else down the road. Regards,
GrayClouds Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 congratulations. you showed courage. now you have the opportunity to understand why your were attracted to this guy. was he a distraction for your own issues, did you think you could fix him, was the drama exciting or something else. do this work and you will be ready for your soulmate
Starshine Black Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Please be careful not to jump the gun about how you think you see the light at the end of the tunnel. Chances are, you're just NOW entering the tunnel. You haven't even got away from the light from where you entered. You still have to go through the middle of the tunnel, of which neither the entrance or exit light shines to. You are going to walk through solid darkness first. -Thomas Xavier Z.
Author aerogurl87 Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 Please be careful not to jump the gun about how you think you see the light at the end of the tunnel. Chances are, you're just NOW entering the tunnel. You haven't even got away from the light from where you entered. You still have to go through the middle of the tunnel, of which neither the entrance or exit light shines to. You are going to walk through solid darkness first. -Thomas Xavier Z. I think I'm in the middle of the tunnel. I realized something wasn't right with the way things were going awhile ago, but I didn't find the courage to leave until recently. I did think I could help him though, my motherly instinct kicked in big time with him. I remember even breaking up with him before and saying that our relationship was unhealthy but I'd always go back to him when he cried for me to take him back. But I'm done with the cycle of drama, I deserve better than him.
Starshine Black Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Unfortunately you won't be at the middle of the tunnel until you've been separated from him for a fair amount of time. You will know when you are in the middle of the tunnel. Because that's when you will be at the withdrawal stage and missing him so badly it hurts to breath, but at the same time, you will want something more. Of course, this description is only relevant in regards to a healthy relationship. If it truly was unhealthy and you detached a while ago, then it's entirely possible you ARE in the middle right now. In about 3 months, you'll know for sure, because hindsight is 20/20. -Thomas Xavier Z.
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