bluejeanbebe Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 So, I have no 'gay-dar' whatsoever. I'm just coming out of a lengthy relationship, so I have been keeping my eyes open now, just looking, sotospeak. I came across a friend of a friend on FB that recently joined- I knew him from college almost 8 years ago. I really didn't pay him much attention as I was busy dating others back then. Well, it maybe my recent, desperate 'singletoodness', but time has really served him well. His profile pics look ~fabulous~. He has himself listed as single. He has some photos of him traveling with what appear to be platonic female friends. I'm pretty sure he's never been married and I've never heard any dating stories about him. He's a pretty good dresser. He's an RN. I don't want to jump to any conclusions.... but I don't want to be naive either. Before I start dropping hints and hitting all over him....... how do you know he's not.... you know???
Author bluejeanbebe Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 wouldn't that be rude coming right out and asking... are you straight or gay?
Thaddeus Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Well, if someone that you found attractive asked you that, would you be offended? I mean, it all depends on how you put it, as well. There is such a thing as direct discretion.
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 You could always ask your mutual friend. I'm assuming that your friend would know. Just go with the fake subtlety; "hey, he's cute. What's his story?" That way, not only will you find out if he's even into women or not, but also any little tidbits of info that could prove useful later on.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Did he put anything in his profile about his orientation? Being an RN doesn't make a guy gay. I'm sure you've probably seen Meet the Parents. A guy who dresses up well could just well be fashionable. The only way you will know is either asking him about his sexiual orientation or asking him and see if he turns you down.
Author bluejeanbebe Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 well yes, I think if someone was asking whether I was a lesbian or not, I would be offended! It woulnd't matter whether I was attracted to them or not- if fact, I think it would hurt worse! I don't know of a polite or diplomatic way of asking!
Author bluejeanbebe Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 i don't think the friend in between us would be good to ask- she's a bit of a backstabber and thinks of me as a man-eater... even tho I'm totally not! I'm afraid she would feed bad info to the guy if she hears that I'm interested. I know snappy-dressing RN's don't always equate gayness.... but you never know. His profile doesn't indicate his sexuality, just that he's single.
alphamale Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 So, I have no 'gay-dar' whatsoever. i used to have it but i lost me special antennae
TaraMaiden Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 I know snappy-dressing RN's don't always equate gayness.... but you never know. His profile doesn't indicate his sexuality, just that he's single. If he's made no reference to it, assume he isn't.
Eve Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 My gay-dar is poorer than most. In fact I seem to be attracted to gay men .. no idea what thats about. Me? I would meet up and keep an open mind. What matters is the friendship anyway. See what happens. Just plan something interesting otherwise it is a bit premeditated methinks and so does leave a hint that you are being rather man eater-ish/desperate. Take care, Eve xx
Isolde Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 His profile doesn't indicate his sexuality, just that he's single. This is generally a bad sign.
Liquid9898 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 This is generally a bad sign. Bull crap! Facebook doesn't have the option where you select "straight" or "gay." It allows you to select a two tier choices: Are you intersted in Male or Female and are you looking for Friendship, Dating, Relationship and/or Networking. So, a straight male can choose he is interested in Male and Female and looking for Friendship, Dating and Networking. Tha could simply imply that he is looking for famales to date and friendship, males for friendship and networking, etc. Aslo, a straight male in a commited relationship can say that he is interested in Male (only) and looking for friendship and networking. It doens't mean or tell you anything about his sexual orientation. That's why many people skip that part.
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