ednadean Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Hi there, Well, my EA has DEFINTELY wound down now...after a few intense months everything has calmed down and MM has decided he needs to put all his energies back to his family. Obviously this is a good thing and is what's best and what's right etc etc. And he was always honest with me and never really led me on anywhere. We're still very good friends and haven't really done the NC thing because for the moment there's no need...but the contact has dropped dramatically. But after the "I love you" 's and all the attention and the contact etc...I just can't help but feel a little forsaken. Anyone else ever felt like this? Not suicidal or devastated...just a little bereft and depressed.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I'm right where you are, going through the ups and downs, withdrawal, trying to do what's right. "She" exists now, and I don't want to cause her any more pain. The trouble is MM and I work closely together. This does not sit well with her and she tried to force him to quit, but he didn't quit, and she didn't leave. But yeah, forsaken, forlorne, lonesome and missing the attention. I find refocusing is the best thing. We can't go no contact, but it has/is slowing considerably. So we limit our meetings, I try to make sure someone else is in the meeting, no road trips anymore, and keep myself busy. It takes time, sometimes there are relapses, but we gain a bit more strength and clarity each time. No more relapses for me though.
Lyssa Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 But after the "I love you" 's and all the attention and the contact etc...I just can't help but feel a little forsaken. Anyone else ever felt like this? Not suicidal or devastated...just a little bereft and depressed. The A ended so it's natural to feel the way you do right now but bear in mind that, you will get through this. It gets easier day by day... Stay strong, Edna!
me003 Posted August 15, 2009 Posted August 15, 2009 YOu will feel that way. Soon the feeling will go away. Try to stay busy and have fun.
Author ednadean Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 thanks guys! I just miss him. and it's ridiculous because I never had him in the first place.
jasminetea Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 You may not have had all of him, but you had a part. Its completely human that you feel the way you do right now. Have you made plans to fill your time and be distracted? I think looking after yourself is really crucial at times like this and a little pampering is a great way to do that and take your mind off what's not healthy for you
fooled once Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I am sorry you are hurting. But he did lead you on with the whole "I love you". Unless he was willing to act on that, he shouldn't have told you IMHO. Time will heal your heart. And this experience will help you realize why you never, ever want to get involved with someone who is already legally bound to anyone else.
Author ednadean Posted August 22, 2009 Author Posted August 22, 2009 I am sorry you are hurting. But he did lead you on with the whole "I love you". Unless he was willing to act on that, he shouldn't have told you IMHO. Time will heal your heart. And this experience will help you realize why you never, ever want to get involved with someone who is already legally bound to anyone else. yes fooled once, believe me I know, and knew at the time that it was a big mistake. IT's horrible though -- I really don't think you can help who you fall in love with sometimes. I think about him every day... thanks for the support guys -- it means a lot to me!
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