Checking to see if they called or texted overnight in the morning is the worst...

[Bleed Internal]

I've been really good about staying NC lately. Since the breakup there has been a little more than 2 weeks of NC and the latest stretch (still going on) has lasted 1 week.

 

During this past week, I've received several calls and texts from her, usually late at night (3 am, 4 am), that I've seen when waking up in the morning. It feels good to know she was trying to contact me because that let me know that she knows she made a huge mistake by cheating on me. Also, because it makes NC easier when there's actually something to ignore and not these empty pockets of no communication where thoughts have the opportunity to run wild.

 

If you look at my other posts, you can see that I'm moving on pretty well. I've even started very casually dating a new, beautiful girl. BUT I still long to see signs of my ex's failed attempts at contacting me. I still want to know that she's wrecked over what she did to me. Then I get the urge to contact her and even feel like some supressed feelings for her arise.

 

It's such a mess. I really loved her. These urges and residual feelings are tough to deal with, but I know I'll never take her back, so I feel like it's best to stay NC no matter how hard it gets. I just wish it was easier. My mind knows that my life is fine and that I don't need her at all, but I wish my heart understood that.

[jv032889]

:DThe easiest way for me was to let my phone go. It gives me more time to hang out with friends and enjoy life without my ex asking where I am. I would wake up almost every hour for the past three months and check my texts/calls. It suck not having a phone but w/o it I have no way to contact her.

[Bleed Internal]

:DThe easiest way for me was to let my phone go. It gives me more time to hang out with friends and enjoy life without my ex asking where I am. I would wake up almost every hour for the past three months and check my texts/calls. It suck not having a phone but w/o it I have no way to contact her.

I'm ready to fight through it and get completely over her, but I definitely won't be doing anything that drastic. No way I'm going to inconvenience myself for someone who is out of my life.

[Ingenue]

I remember that immediately after my break up, I checked email messages and telephone messages from my ex. I wasn't obsessive but I would check at least once a day to see if he called. After a few weeks of that, I made a promise to myself to write him off completely. For me, that meant the following:

 

-filtering all his emails to a folder that I willed myself not to check

-deleting/erasing his number from my telephone books

-blocking him on any social networking and messenger sites and changing his username on my screen to "The Ex - Do Not Answer"

-deleting his username from Skype

 

After a few weeks, it became easier not to pay attention to him.

[Nedved]

I really struggled with the phone myself as i had it beside me all the time waiting and hoping for a text or call. I eventually got fed up as it was'nt doing me any good so i turned it off around 9 at night and did'nt turn it on till around 12 the next day at work. I found it helped me as it was a bad habit more than anything.

 

I'm fine now as i don't expect her to text or call so i leave it on all the time but in the early stages it helped me.