Silent-Night Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Well my affair started in March of 2008. OW was a single mum with two kids. We had been chatting for couple of weeks online. My marriage was rocky and I decided to get into a serious relationship with OW. I started living with the OW and have lived with her for a year. I lied about everything background, family etc. Then one night 3 months ago I confessed the lies to the OW. I even said I would go into therapy for the lies because I had made the decision to stay with OW and had already started the paperwork with my Wife. I saw the OW on Sunday and she told me that she had already met someone else but her parents wanted to invite my parents to their place for lunch next week WTF. She also kept saying that she loved me like no other. She has someone else and was still contacting me WTF. I said that I wanted her to go to therapy with me to understand why so we could grow as a couple. We almost kissed on Sunday even if their is someone else WTF. I can't stop thinking that we have made a mistake and though even if we did have our ups and downs. I think we are burying our feelings and trying to force ourselves to move on. I have filed for divorce and started therapy but have started NC with OW. Have we made a mistake? Please I need to understand all this.
bentnotbroken Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 You lied to 2 women for over a year and you want to know why she wants someone else:laugh::laugh:that's rich.
Author Silent-Night Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 No I filed for divorce and moved out as soon as I met the OW.
Author Silent-Night Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 I confessed everything to the OW having been fighting a legal battle with my ex-wife for a year and DID NOT string along anybody. The OW suggested therapy so we could understand and grow as a couple. I know what I have done wrong I am trying to put it right. I don't expect pity.
whichwayisup Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 You DID string along your OW from day one. I lied about everything background, family etc. Then one night 3 months ago I confessed the lies to the OW. For a YEAR. No wonder she doesn't trust you. All you can do is fix yourself and maybe in time once she sees you've changed, are more trustworthy, then it's possible she'll date you. Don't push it. Atleast you're divorcing your wife and not lying to her as well.
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