385 Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Ok, before I start, I need to say that I have a very good relationship with my GF. We get along really well and it's a really good fit and because of that, we are liking each other more and more as days go by. However, a problem I've discovered with falling for each other more and more is that she seems to be less receptive to my jokes/teases etc... What I mean by this is I like to flirt/tease (it's my personality) and stuff like that and I still do that even if I'm in a relationship. It used to be that whenever I cracked a joke or playfully teased her, she'd laugh and not mind it. Now it seems like she's more sensitive about that stuff and it actually seems like she mildly takes offense to it. Now, I'm pretty sure she is really into me and that increases day by day, but why the change in attitude? She also seems to be more sensitive about what she says to me and is slowly getting to the point where she cares about me more than my mother does - which is kinda weird because I see myself as an independent guy and don't like being babysat. This part is understandable though but what I'm really confused about is why she's less receptive to my jokes/teasing? Any psych majors out there or ladies that can tell me what she's thinking/feeling because I'm a guy and don't get it.
Confusedalways Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 WOW, this is so weird. This could totally be the guy I'm kind of seeing writing this post-- it is exactly what we're going through right now. I am less receptive to the jokes and teasing these days because I already know/enjoy that side of him and every time I try to talk to him seriously he continues the joking flirtyness. I want to know that there's another side to him-- and I know there is-- but he is very guarding of it. I guess I just am trying to get him to lower his guard so I can see that side of him. I already love the joking and fun side of him but sometimes it is tiring when you're trying to talk and just keep getting teased. I guess I'm kind of rambling. I don't think it's a bad thing-- I think she is trying to see other sides of you and wants you to tell her kind things/ compliments once in awhile. At least in my situation, the guy I am seeing can't compliment me without attaching a joke/ etc to it. That's just my take though
Author 385 Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 Haha, that sounds totally like me. 90% of the time, my compliments are attached to a joke, but every once in a while, I do throw in a sincere compliment just to show that I really mean what I say when I compliment her. But thanks for that point of view and it does kinda make sense - maybe she is trying to see a different side of me. I guess the reason I still joke and tease is because one of the things I will try to never let happen is for my relationship to be boring and stuff. I will always try to keep things exciting.
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