KikiW Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Ok there was a guy who pursued me throughout high school, and at first I laughed it off because I didn't think he was very serious (I was 14 at the time, I was a little thick). Near the end of high school, after hanging out with mutual friends I ended up outside his house sitting on the hood of my car... he comes over, puts his hands on my hips and kisses me - and I could feel the bolts of electricity surging! It was the first time I'd ever felt that way, and I was blown away. Fell fast and hard. The relationship was short-lived. For whatever reason, he blew it. He acted like a jerk, and I ditched him fast. Well before he came along I told myself I would never put up with that kind of thing, and I didn't. But I was so disappointed and I never forgot it. Fast forward to earlier this year. I got a friend request from this guy. I let it sit there in my request log. I didn't approve or decline, it just sat there. A few months later he messaged me. Said he wonders if I will ever friend him or if I still think he's a bastard. I write back something like no, I don't think you're a bastard (meaning I could be letting it go or I could be thinking you're a bunch of OTHER curse words). He writes what I think is a rather meaningful note back, admitting he blew it with me, that he was truly sorry, that he's thought about me a lot, hopes I can forgive him for being a stupid kid. Says it's not about redemption, he just hopes we can be friends someday. I stew on it for a bit, and figure I'm in a good place in my life. I have a wonderful kid, a business that is doing well despite the economy, and a man who is absolutely nuts for me. So I tell him no worries, past is the past, I'm older and wiser and have no time to be carrying hate around, so peace and all that. And I haven't heard from him since. What a d*ck. Thanks for letting me vent.
WineCountry Posted August 14, 2009 Posted August 14, 2009 Ok there was a guy who pursued me throughout high school, and at first I laughed it off because I didn't think he was very serious (I was 14 at the time, I was a little thick). Near the end of high school, after hanging out with mutual friends I ended up outside his house sitting on the hood of my car... he comes over, puts his hands on my hips and kisses me - and I could feel the bolts of electricity surging! It was the first time I'd ever felt that way, and I was blown away. Fell fast and hard. The relationship was short-lived. For whatever reason, he blew it. He acted like a jerk, and I ditched him fast. Well before he came along I told myself I would never put up with that kind of thing, and I didn't. But I was so disappointed and I never forgot it. Fast forward to earlier this year. I got a friend request from this guy. I let it sit there in my request log. I didn't approve or decline, it just sat there. A few months later he messaged me. Said he wonders if I will ever friend him or if I still think he's a bastard. I write back something like no, I don't think you're a bastard (meaning I could be letting it go or I could be thinking you're a bunch of OTHER curse words). He writes what I think is a rather meaningful note back, admitting he blew it with me, that he was truly sorry, that he's thought about me a lot, hopes I can forgive him for being a stupid kid. Says it's not about redemption, he just hopes we can be friends someday. I stew on it for a bit, and figure I'm in a good place in my life. I have a wonderful kid, a business that is doing well despite the economy, and a man who is absolutely nuts for me. So I tell him no worries, past is the past, I'm older and wiser and have no time to be carrying hate around, so peace and all that. And I haven't heard from him since. What a d*ck. Thanks for letting me vent. Okay..umm..why is he a dick?? What did you expect him to do?? Start asking you out to dinner?? It seems like he probably felt bad for the way things ended, and just wanted to clear the air a bit. He probably understands that you still have some resentment over things..so what the heck did you expect from him?? He didnt say he wanted to start a relationship with you..he said that he hoped y'all could be friends one day. That was NOT a promise that he was gonna email you every single day, and be your BFF. The guy is probably wondering if he did the right thing, and probably thinks he has apologized, and now should just leave it alone. You have a man, why would you want an EX, of all people, to start being in the picture?? He got in touch, apologized for his behavior back in the day, and said one day he hoped y'all could be friends. That's it. It seems like maybe you read more into it??
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