dianna Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 i've had a "date" more like a walk with my ex boyfriend today after 1 month of not seeing eachother..just talked about stuff what we did..where are we going to go and etc etc and we hugged and we both said we missed eachother( i said I missed you and he said I missed ya too and put his arms around me ..i dunno if its a good or a bad sign ) but in a very friendly way.After the hug/goodbye and see ya next time ..i felt weird.I saw him today and I feet like I don't like him.Even though I do love him but in the same time something definetly changed.I dunno what's gonna happen in the future, i still hope we will be togheter someday( the thought of him being with another girl makes me sick ) but i started to cry when i realised that i don't know find him attractive ( well he lost alot of weight and he shrinked lol..i dunno..) . And yeah he brought me the cd's i wanted ( pictures with us ) and ..well he didn't look me in the eyes ..he was almost shy..i dunno if its good or bad...now i feel like crying again..gaaaaaaah stupid stupid stupid. what's your opinion?
TaraMaiden Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 You need to go no contact, avoid him like the plague, and stop asking questions to which - quite honestly - there are no simple, logical or constructive replies. It's over. I doubt you'll ever be together again, because your heart's not in it. Really, it isn't. Shove it under 'mission accomplished, done with." And move on.
TaraMaiden Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Why? There's no finality to this relationship, and you're going to find yourself bimbling along, in a type of emotional 'no-man's-land' wondering what will happen, putting everything on hold, and debating with yourself whether things will change or not. That denies you both the opportunity to carry on with your lives and move on. You need to agree with him that either it's over, you date other people, you enjoy different relationships - or you try again. but a middle-of-the-road solution rarely - if ever - works.
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