AugustLane Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 yeah... the eyes & lines on your forehead give you away... But good for you for posting! I won't because whenever I look for answers to my relationship questions before posting here- links to here always show up. I don't want my real self known just in case... Just picture Reese Witherspoon in Election curly hair & all...
Thornton Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I would guess 30-ish, CaliGuy - I'm 29 and I'd assume you were roughly my age within a couple of years. Fwiw I think the dark hair looks nicer too
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I would guess 30-ish, CaliGuy - I'm 29 and I'd assume you were roughly my age within a couple of years. Fwiw I think the dark hair looks nicer too Haha thanks. Yeah I dunno, the camera accents any lines I might have. When you see me in person none of that is prominent at all. Dark hair looks better? Ah well, next haircut it goes anyway!
Isolde Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Haha thanks. Yeah I dunno, the camera accents any lines I might have. When you see me in person none of that is prominent at all. Dark hair looks better? Ah well, next haircut it goes anyway! It's something about your eyes that makes you look more mature, I didn't notice any lines. But that's not a bad thing. If I were 30, I'd say you're attractive, but unfortunately, I'm really far too young to make such a statement!
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 It's something about your eyes that makes you look more mature, I didn't notice any lines. But that's not a bad thing. If I were 30, I'd say you're attractive, but unfortunately, I'm really far too young to make such a statement! Nah. Last girlfriend was 22
Citizen Erased Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Nah. Last girlfriend was 22 Want another one?
Jersey Shortie Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Let me explain. Women my age tend to look their age. They don't look 10-12 years younger than they are. When I try and date women my age, they think that they are either a cougar or worse, my MOM! Perhaps that has to to with the mental connection, the feeling like your mom, then it does the physical. Not saying you are immature. But you did just brag about dating a 22 year old and one would hope at your age that while it's fine to date younger women, thinking its brag worthy is a little high school-ish. There's a different mind set between 18-25 and women in their 30s. If you're 30 and you want to have normal kids, you need to find a husband and get to it. Everyone knows this. I'm 29, not opposed to marriage and want to have a family someday. If I saw two equally attractive women, one 25 the other 30, I'd prefer to meet the 25 y/o. Not that I'm not turned on by a 30 y/o. On the contrary, I've noticed women in their 30s more likely to talk dirty with the boys and be all eager, etc. Its that with the 25 y/o you're not pressed by biology. I'd also like to be married for a few years w/o kids ideally. If I met and married a 30 y/o woman... I wouldn't take that risk. When I hear 30 year old guys tell 30 year old women they need to get to it while they say they will "get to it someday", I just can't help but think there is a mega level of selfishness, unrealistic expecations of your own aging process and a level of immaturity and Peter Panism. If you are a guy that's going to hit 30, no offense but you don't have forever anymore either. And it's been scientifically documented to be the case. Now, I know every man here will deny it and come forth bragging about how manly and sexually indemand they still are and forever will be. But that's really just puffed out chests and insecurity talking and fanatsy. The reality is that men's "prime" isn't any more extended then women's "prime". What has become extended is this fantasy hollywood perception that men can live an extended adolesence. Which is rather sad. Also, forgot to mention, if you're a guy just looking to have fun 25 y/o women are generally easier to manipulate and more open to that. Yes, thats' excellent...manipulate women! Wow, is that really the quality of guy that is out there today? Holy Crap, the future is going to bite more then it does now.
tami-chan Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Ok there's a pic on my profile taken yesterday. If you think I look 40, OK, I'll buy that. Nobody who meets me in public would even guess close to 40. Make sure you open the picture cause the album cover distorts the photo. I'll leave it up for a few hours. Very nice. You look like you are in your late 30s. The droop on the side of your eyes gave it away....sorry..not trying to be mean....
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Want another one? Yes of course Perhaps that has to to with the mental connection, the feeling like your mom, then it does the physical. Not saying you are immature. But you did just brag about dating a 22 year old and one would hope at your age that while it's fine to date younger women, thinking its brag worthy is a little high school-ish. That was to point out that if I truly looked my age, I wouldn't be able to date 22 year olds. Not to brag, that was not the intent. When I hear 30 year old guys tell 30 year old women they need to get to it while they say they will "get to it someday", I just can't help but think there is a mega level of selfishness, unrealistic expecations of your own aging process and a level of immaturity and Peter Panism. If you are a guy that's going to hit 30, no offense but you don't have forever anymore either. And it's been scientifically documented to be the case. Now, I know every man here will deny it and come forth bragging about how manly and sexually indemand they still are and forever will be. But that's really just puffed out chests and insecurity talking and fanatsy. The reality is that men's "prime" isn't any more extended then women's "prime". What has become extended is this fantasy hollywood perception that men can live an extended adolesence. Which is rather sad. I'm trying to figure out where I said that in any context. Yes, thats' excellent...manipulate women! Wow, is that really the quality of guy that is out there today? Holy Crap, the future is going to bite more then it does now. Did I hit a soft spot or something? lol. Look, it's not to brag, I don't think I am a "gift" to women. I do have my sh*t together though. I'm in great shape, I take care of myself, I'm financially stable (not rich, just not in debt either), great credit, no baggage. I guess what I am saying is that I can attract quality women -- age aside. But women my age, at least the ones I have met so far, have issues that I am unwilling to deal with (psycho ex husbands, buried in debt, can't keep a job, have no aspirations, can't stay in shape, alcohol and/or drug problems, etc). I don't want to clean up someone else's mess. PLUS, none of them near my age want to start a family. I do. That really limits the age pool I can draw from. Very nice. You look like you are in your late 30s. The droop on the side of your eyes gave it away....sorry..not trying to be mean.... Hmmm it's been that way forever. I'm looking at my HS photo. Same "droop" lol
Thornton Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 When I hear 30 year old guys tell 30 year old women they need to get to it while they say they will "get to it someday", I just can't help but think there is a mega level of selfishness, unrealistic expecations of your own aging process and a level of immaturity and Peter Panism. If you are a guy that's going to hit 30, no offense but you don't have forever anymore either. I have to admit that I can understand the male viewpoint in this situation. As a woman who is pushing 30, I realistically have about 5 years within which to have children - after that it's a bit of a risk as to how fast my fertility might decline and what health issues any children might have. Guys, however, can continue to produce healthy children for much longer. A guy who is 40 or over can quite realistically expect to date a woman who is 25-30 and have kids with her (assuming he's good looking or rich enough to attract a woman of that age). But a woman of 40 would have a tough time conceiving no matter how young her partner was. So in that case, the statement in the above quote is correct: women of 30 do need to "get to it", while guys of 30 still have a couple of decades to spare if they choose to delay parenthood. I have certainly seen this pattern among men aged around 30 who are still enjoying their freedom and building their career, and who don't want kids till they're 40-ish. There's absolutely no point in me dating them because by the time they're ready for kids I'll be too old to have them. I've ended up dating a man aged 40 who's happy to have kids with me in the next couple of years, while the 30yo guys prefer girls in their early 20s whose biological clock won't start ticking for another 7 or 8 years. If we take CaliGuy as an example: assuming he wants kids then he has little choice but to date a younger woman - lucky for him that he looks young enough to attract one! If he dated a woman of 40 then he would have very little chance of having kids, so I can understand his choice to date younger. I'd love to be able to delay having kids by another decade so I could work on my career, but unfortunately as a female I don't have that luxury... and since the guys my age won't be ready for kids within the time frame that my fertility allows, I have to date older guys who are ready. Biology is a b*tch
Trialbyfire Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Thornton, statistically speaking both genders share 50% of the infertility statistics. Some studies are even suggesting that women only contribute to 40 - 50% of the reasons for infertility. There's a lot of misinformation circulating about men and women when it comes to inception, as correlated to age.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I'm 6 months shy of 30 and LOVE it. I don't mind being 30. I don't care if I look it, either. What matters is how I feel. Last time I got carded was in March. So really - it depends on what I'm wearing, how my hair looks, etc. Most of the time I do not get carded. I'm glad I don't. Because I don't always carry the dang thing with me inside from the car. I'm happy to be an adult and would rather be with a man that appreciates me for who I am rather than if I "look younger." I have a brain - that's my best asset, thanks.
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 If we take CaliGuy as an example: assuming he wants kids then he has little choice but to date a younger woman - lucky for him that he looks young enough to attract one! If he dated a woman of 40 then he would have very little chance of having kids, so I can understand his choice to date younger. I'd love to be able to delay having kids by another decade so I could work on my career, but unfortunately as a female I don't have that luxury... and since the guys my age won't be ready for kids within the time frame that my fertility allows, I have to date older guys who are ready. Biology is a b*tch I have the luxury of looking younger and spent a good majority of my youthful years living out my dreams (pro musician for 15 years, motorcycle racer for 3, got my career settled, etc). When I was ready to marry around 35-36, I ran into a bad apple. Burned me bad. Ran into another one recently but didn't burn me nearly as bad. Finding decent luck dating and having fun but so far no keepers. When I find her, I'll know and I am not worried about the age. I don't see it being a problem. I have a rather large age pool to draw from I see that as a POSITIVE, not a negative
Rudderless Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I got carded, aged 31 and I'm male. How douchey is that?
missdependant Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 A hard and difficult life can age a person prematurely and severely. Being poor, not having health care, abused, illness, etc. These things can become part of almost anyone's life in any country. Yeah, its their own fault. Essentially, you're saying that it's someone's own fault for being under-privileged no matter what country they come from? I spent six weeks in Sri Lanka for a Human Rights project, and can say with certainty that it's not these people's fault for being poor, not having healthcare, especially not being abused (sometimes even by their own soldiers) or becoming ill and not being able to treat it. Granted, not many of these people care about what age they look.. but it's extremely ignorant to say it's these people's "own fault"..
Rudderless Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Essentially, you're saying that it's someone's own fault for being under-privileged no matter what country they come from? I think you misinterpreted what that poster wrote. The "yeah it's their own fault" part appears to be sarcasm in response to the previous poster. They're actually agreeing with you I believe.
missdependant Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I think you misinterpreted what that poster wrote. The "yeah it's their own fault" part appears to be sarcasm in response to the previous poster. They're actually agreeing with you I believe. I sure hope it was sarcasm..
Author MissJoness Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 Women in their 30s have children ALL the time. I see so many women in their 30s pregnant I kinda feel like some of the guys are exaggerating a bit Also, to Caliguy I have the luxury of looking younger and spent a good majority of my youthful years living out my dreams (pro musician for 15 years, motorcycle racer for 3, got my career settled, etc). When I was ready to marry around 35-36, I ran into a bad apple. Burned me bad. Ran into another one recently but didn't burn me nearly as bad. Yeah but you're getting older too. You're in your 40s and you're just NOW wanting to start a family. So by the time you're kids are in high school you'll almost be ready for a nursing home.
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Women in their 30s have children ALL the time. I see so many women in their 30s pregnant I kinda feel like some of the guys are exaggerating a bit I don't see any guys talking about it, honestly. It's women! Also, to Caliguy Yeah but you're getting older too. You're in your 40s and you're just NOW wanting to start a family. So by the time you're kids are in high school you'll almost be ready for a nursing home. Hmmmm, I'm detecting bitterness directed at me. What's got ya angry, MissJoness? I'm 40. Not "in my 40s" which insinuates somewhere around 45. And when I'm 60, I'll still be working out and playing softball
Jersey Shortie Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Did I hit a soft spot or something? lol. Look, it's not to brag, I don't think I am a "gift" to women. I do have my sh*t together though. I'm in great shape, I take care of myself, I'm financially stable (not rich, just not in debt either), great credit, no baggage. I guess what I am saying is that I can attract quality women -- age aside. But women my age, at least the ones I have met so far, have issues that I am unwilling to deal with (psycho ex husbands, buried in debt, can't keep a job, have no aspirations, can't stay in shape, alcohol and/or drug problems, etc). I don't want to clean up someone else's mess. PLUS, none of them near my age want to start a family. I do. That really limits the age pool I can draw from. Actually, the last two parts of my post weren't directed at you. I qouted someone else. I like that you said you can attract quality women, age aside. As long as you really mean it. If a man dates younger women, older and women his age, I think most women find him more emotionally stable then a man that only focuses on younger women and think that that is what makes him a real man. I find when men say age doesn't matter they mean "age doesn't matter when she is younger then me" Which of course does infact mean age matters. And I find something disturbing about this trend that men think they are "settling " by dating women their own age but somehow a younger women should view him like a prize. Isn't he basically rejecting his own age? Of course there is a certain level of male and female insecurity when it comes to aging on both sides. If a man doesn't want to "settle" for a 40 year old, then why should a woman? [sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman][FONT=Verdana][sIZE=2][sIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman][FONT=Verdana][sIZE=2]Thornton, statistically speaking both genders share 50% of the infertility statistics. Some studies are even suggesting that women only contribute to 40 - 50% of the reasons for infertility. There's a lot of misinformation circulating about men and women when it comes to inception, as correlated to age. [/sIZE][/FONT] [/FONT][/sIZE][/sIZE][/FONT][/FONT][/sIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3][/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Cosigns . Men are less willing to admit it but I think they understand the truth in it. And as that subject gets more researched, I think we will see more and more women choosing men based on this information. Women already are. [/sIZE][/FONT]
Trialbyfire Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Cosigns . Men are less willing to admit it but I think they understand the truth in it. And as that subject gets more researched, I think we will see more and more women choosing men based on this information. Women already are.I don't really care that older men target younger women. Preferences are what they are. As long as men don't try to justify it due to false biological reasons, it's all good. Myself, I like my men a little seasoned. My fiance fooled me by looking older than 36!
CaliGuy Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Actually, the last two parts of my post weren't directed at you. I qouted someone else. I like that you said you can attract quality women, age aside. As long as you really mean it. If a man dates younger women, older and women his age, I think most women find him more emotionally stable then a man that only focuses on younger women and think that that is what makes him a real man. I find when men say age doesn't matter they mean "age doesn't matter when she is younger then me" Which of course does infact mean age matters. And I find something disturbing about this trend that men think they are "settling " by dating women their own age but somehow a younger women should view him like a prize. Isn't he basically rejecting his own age? Of course there is a certain level of male and female insecurity when it comes to aging on both sides. If a man doesn't want to "settle" for a 40 year old, then why should a woman? I guess I should clarify something. I've been dating younger women -- because I can and because that is who I've been meeting (mostly due to social situations). Again, most women my age or married or divorced with kids so their lifestyle is not on par with mine. Age has never precluded me from dating someone. As long as I find them interesting and attractive, I'll go out with them. In the same context, there are many 20-somethings I've met that, once I get to know them, I quickly lose interest. I've also met late 30s who act like their 19. That's also a major turn off. As for having kids, their age is less of a factor than their "state of mind". Most women my age have had kids and are DONE with having them. That's an automatic "yer out!" with me. I want to start a family and would never get involved with a woman who does not share that desire. I was dating the model chick for a while. She was 32. A few months into dating she drops the bomb "I don't really want kids...". Needless to say, I let her know that we wouldn't be dating anymore. And she was frikken hot too Again, if you're sitting in my shoes where you have the largest dating pool you've ever had to draw from, you don't say no to people based on their physical age as you do their "metal" age. That to me is much more important. Ideals, goals, long term aspirations, etc. All that is a much bigger factor than if her boobs are perky. That said, perky boobs = huge turn on I AM A GUY, OK?! I make no excuses for it
Thornton Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Yeah but you're getting older too. You're in your 40s and you're just NOW wanting to start a family. So by the time you're kids are in high school you'll almost be ready for a nursing home. Gosh, I hope I'm not ready for a nursing home at 60 I don't know many people who are - my parents are mid 60s and still going strong, and my neighbour is 93 and still lives in her own home. I figure that in 30-40 years time, when I reach the age at which people usually get serious illnesses, they'll already have invented treatments for most of them. I read that the first person who will reach the age of 150 is probably alive today, and is expected to be somewhere around 50 years of age. I'm pretty healthy, I work out and eat well... the way I always see it is that if I live to 80 and a person 20 years younger than me is unhealthy and only lives to 60, we both have the same amount of life left. I don't see why someone can't have kids in their 40s - that makes them 60-ish when the kids leave school - hardly elderly. Most people seem to live to around 70-80 nowadays, so the kids would be 30-40 when the parents die - more than old enough to stand on their own two feet. In fact it's debatable that older people actually make better parents anyway, given that they have greater financial resources, more life experience, and have already got their partying out of their system so they can be committed to their family.
Jersey Shortie Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 That said, perky boobs = huge turn on I AM A GUY, OK?! I make no excuses for it Why should you make excuses for it? Men rule the world and women are secondary citizens..still in this day and age there is a huge truth to that. I have no issues with what you are saying but I really hate when men pull the old "I'm a guy" and think it makes them look cute. Being a guy isn't excuse enough for anything. Sorry.
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