espec10001 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Dating is becoming like a god-damn job interview. It is like the corporate mentality has taken over everything. I am jealous of those who lived back in the days where things happened more naturally, you met the person through natural means. Now everything is artificial, like how much you can 'sell' yourself to the prospective mate. It is really disgusting, and it makes me angry. Both sexes have this laundry list of what they want/ don't want and the reality is there is no such thing as a human being that fits all these criteria! We are becoming machine-like!!!! It's why neither sex knows how to initiate conversation, because of all this f***ing technology and artificial relationships. I'm wondering now if everywhere in the world is like America. Are there other places in the world where people are more natural and it isn't so hard to meet a nice person of the opposite sex that doesn't put too much expectations on a person?
monkey00 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Has it occurred to you that maybe people are single because they choose to? And yes there are many countries out there where it's easy to date and fall into relationships.
tinklebell Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I think many places are like that, save the tribes or small towns that still provide arranged marriages or similar arrangements. monkey00, which are the countries that are easier on relationships?
BCCA Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 The problem is that the vicious cycle has gone on for a long time. Men dont like it when women do something, men do things women dont like, more and more resentment for the other builds. Now a days, you have to put on a puppet show, and do a million 'pick up artist' things just go get women interested, and even at that, your chances of getting a long term girlfriend arent very good. I think there are just too many options now a days, and being alone isnt really frowned on at all. Once you get to a certain age and dont have a signifigant other, people kind of assume youre just going to be single forever.
Brady_to_Moss Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I dont date becasue its way to much work...putting that much time into something and not even knowing if its going to work out? I am not going to rebuild my engine if i am not sure it will ever run again. I am just going to go about my life my way..if i meet someone..so be it..if not..oh well
Sam Spade Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 The US is *THE* most alienated society on the planet, so none of this is surprising. Combine this with the excessive emphasis on *personal* happiness, and the result is a population that is basically unable to relate to each other (includes not only relationships, but friendships as well). There is nothing wrong with personal happiness, of course (duh ). The problem is prioritising it above everything else (e.g. healthy community life, which by definition requires sacrifices and compromises). The end result is a viscious circle of selfishness and ever decreasing ability to relate to others - as in "I don't want you in my life if you are to cause the slightest discomfort such as not sharing my rock climbing hobby". Personally, much like all other aspects of my life, I deal with this by having realistic expectations of relationships, and equally as important - holding onto a girl with the same or similar realistic expectations. In particular, none of us excpects to be happy all of the time, but we are quite content if after accounting for the ups and downs, we are happy on average.
Author espec10001 Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 I don't understand how a society which cannot relate to one another among common grounds can ever survive. I'm just getting fed up, I'm not blaming women, because I look at myself and I just turn into a complete ******* around women, so it's my fault as well. But this American society is poisonous, how can we ever prosper and get anything worthwhile done if we are so alienated from one another. The ****ing government and all these unnecessary things divide us and keep us from communing. THEN, instead of putting the blame where it should be, THEM, they promote individual responsibility, that YOU are to blame for everything. It's like the victim mentality where the abuser makes the victim feel like its all their fault. And everyone on here will tell me that it is my fault for not being successful, when I'm starting to believe that it is a load of **** and something in this world, outside of myself, is denying me my basic human rights. Instead of us uniting against a common enemy we divide against each other. Divide and conquer.
Jimmy's_Brother Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I don't know if it's my fault or theirs anymore. I ain't getting chicks, so why fight it? This is an opportune time in my life (mid-20s) to develop myself in every way possible - intellectual, physical, mental, emotional, social. There's a whole world out there to discover, and if you let a little thing like dating hover over your shoulder like the damned cloud it is, and rule your life, disappointment is always around the corner. Yeah, I get lonely, but then I masturbate, and it's all good. For about five minutes.
vanilla87 Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 I blame social networks. Everyone uses them these days to the point that they don't even need to talk to a friend face-to-face. People can even get groceries online shipped to their house. Our country is lazy and wants instant gratification, which is the reason why everyone is demanding their happiness above the basic needs for a society. And its not easy dating anymore. People have mile high lists that they use to judge whomever they are interested in these days and if there is on thing that doesn't fit the bill they move on before they ca give someone a chance to even open their mouths. Sometimes wished I grew up in the 40's and 50's when my grandparents met and got married. They were together for 56 years before my grandmother pasted away last xmas. Its relationships like that, which make me kind of old fashion to dating. I don't like this whole computer generated get togethers too much, cause I'e tried it and the three times they have all been failures... I wish people would be more interactive in person then with computers, but then again people use them to make themselves look and sound cooler. Dating is survival of the fittest and its making the ones that shouldn't survive actually live past their expiration date. I mean 20-30 years ago if you couldn't find someone to settle down with by the time your 30, then you never did. Also people got married really young too. Actually 30 years ago computers were just being invented into small sizes, well big enough to fit on your desk that is. Anyway, point is that people didn't have computers back before 1985, so when you think about it if we all adopt how people were then, maybe it'll be easier for kids to not be such tools and learn to find people to date with actual social interaction so that they can grow up to be normal and marry like our grandparents did, which is way more normal then the bullshyt we got going on today.
alphamale Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Are there other places in the world where people are more natural and it isn't so hard to meet a nice person of the opposite sex that doesn't put too much expectations on a person? yes, anyplace outside the US. dating here is ****ed up man.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 Wow so much bitterness. Okay yeah, society is f- up. It's not bad to want to meet someone who is genuine and not superficial and callous, but standards nowadays are fueled by the need to be materialistic and demanding. Your ideals fit a more traditionalist society. If that's the case, than finding happiness where society is fueled by consumerism is not achievable. Try Asia, they still do arranged marriages.
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