jv032889 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 My ex and I (3 years) recently broke up in April. She left because she said she wasn't happy with herself. A few weeks after we broke up I received a call from her bro-in-law. He offered to talk at that point I really needed someone to listen to me. I accepted his offer and while I was there he gave me $200 to try and sleep with me. I'm an honest person so I left immediately and drove straight to my ex's house to let her know what just occured. Since that day we tried to be in a relationship twice. The first time lasted about a month and she said she couldn't be with me because she was use to being alone. The second time,which occured recently, she said she could no longer love me, trust me because of what I did with her bro-in-law. She continues to give me $$, buy me clothes, take me to dinner. Why? If she no longer wants to be with me. If she texts or calls and I don't answer she will accuse me of nonsense! Why? Why? Why? During all of this she speaks to her ex which she started talking to around the time we broke up. She denies having feelings for her but still she talks to her for hours and hours a day. She tells me over and over that they are friends. When I ask her she becomes very angry and tells me I should know the answer. Last night I called her and she told me that I was the one who screwed up the relationship for meeting her bro-in-law. She said she could no longer talk to me. She told me to just leave her alone and let it all go but how If I am deeply in love with her? This is my first heartbreak and I'm having all these feelings that I have never felt before!! Will I be alone forever? Will I be loved again? Will I survive? How will I move on if we are co-workers? I apologize for the long read I need help, motivation, advice something to help ease the pain.
EmptyPromises Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 im sorry, i just laughed really hard with your first couple of sentences. thats nuts!! sorry to sound harsh, i dont understand why your accepting money, clothes, etc from this woman. are you not strong enough to stand on your own too feet and take care of yourself? also are you a male or female? because you talk about your ex girlfriend and her ex girlfriend, just wondering if this is a female female relationship. maybe your ex's brother in law made up a huge story/lie after you told yoru ex what happened. your ex prob confronted the brother in law. and SNAP OUT OF IT! of course youll be loved and survived. shes clearly not the one for you. the one for you will : love you, trust you, want to be with you, everything you ever dreamed of! i encourage you to read other peoples posts, love shack helped me alot with my breakup. read posts about no contact, the alternative to no contact. read books like : its called a breakup cuz its broken. stop seeming so pathetic! its not attractive to ANYONE. when you're confident, taking care of yourself, and are happy you will look more attractive then when you're begging, crying, etc.
EmptyPromises Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 * its called a breakup because its broken act like you're okay with the breakup.. like it doesnt bother you. and go no contact for awhile. you're too easy for her.
Author jv032889 Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 I'm a female...Yes, I'm a lesbian I know for a fact that she confronted him. I also know that she isn't the one for me its just so hard to get over. We lived together for 2 1/2 years.
EmptyPromises Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 so move on! find someone better.. it seems impossible but we all know well find someone eventually! im going through a break up too and i still love my ex like you do. but i learned to have some respect for myself and saved my dignity by going no contact for while. youll look more mature and attractive when you're not eating the little breadcrumbs she throws you.
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