on an email

[Glum]

Hello

 

first post, won't go into details but we split, got back together again & love each other. She has a husband who still loves her but she really dislikes him due to the past. Been with her for about 18 mnths. The email below I the reason for my post

 

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Hi baby

 

I'll get straight to it, I love you, no question about it, love almost everything about you. We have (had) something so special, so natural & organic & I'm afraid it's dying. It really hurts, I just want the girl I've fallen for.*

 

I understand you want time, find yourself (though I don't know quite what that means) & to find God. I hope you do find what your looking for & I hope I'm part of that, the memories, the passion ... Our compatiblity. I just dont think it's that easy to find again? We still have unfinsished business.**

 

I guess without some kind of understanding & communication I can only assume we won't be reconciling any time soon? if ever? The decision lies with you but I'm in so much pain not knowing. My world has literatly turned upside down.*Without some sort of communication I guess I need to think about moving Don't think I'll get with someone anytime soon cos I just want the one girl but in order to prepare me to get over you we need to get some space apart.

 

What ever paranoid*message you read in this I'll tell you exactly what I'm trying to say ... I love you, I want you & would do almost anything to make us happy**

 

I'll say again problems can be overcome

but it takes work, commitment & love. I know I have the strength, I just hope you do

x x x *

 

Is it too soft? Desperate? Don't wanna come accross like a wuss but also wan to make sure she knows I want her back?

 

Haven't sent it yet, just wanted someone leses take on it before the send button is pressed

[seibert253]

So you're the OM?

If she's in love with you, why is she still married, why hasn't she left her husband if she doesn't love him?

I can answer, she's not going to leave her husband, ever. He is her comfort zone. He's paying the bills. She may even still love him.

 

Dude you need to move on. I don't think the email is a good idea at all. Let it die. Find a woman who will truly love you, not string you along.

[Glum]

No she left her husband over 15 mnths ago. She sees him once every 2 weeks en he picks the kids up. They are gijng throught the early stages of divorce.

 

Sorry, should have made that clear

[LovesHangover]

You can either follow your heart or not. You can either be self expressed or not. There are choices in life and we ultimately choose for ourselves. It is your life and the only one you have so do what will have you free with no regrets. People have a lot of emotions collapsed like they mean the same thing such as vunerability and desperation; power and force; etc. Since it matters enough for you to ask, do it. Just be straight. Take out the fluff and say it is. All the best to you.

[utterer of lies]

 

Weak and pathetic email to MW.

 

 

 

Weak and pathetic. Have you no self-respect?

[2sunny]

don't send it. she already obviously holds all the cards and all the power... why give her more?

 

balance things out.

 

let your actions show her instead of words she doesn't need to hear.

 

actually i'd make her wonder a bit - i think the balance sways too much to her side.

[mmk1]

Love it UOL!

 

Look, say "I love you, I want you back" in person or over the phone, not in an email. Whatever you say, keep it short, direct and never say it again if she does not reply affirmatively.