Bleed Internal Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Long story short: I found out my ex-girlfriend was cheating on me about three weeks ago. I was heartbroken, but life is great and I'm doing SO much better now. I'm over this cheating whore and I'm moving on very quickly. In fact, I went on a date with a girl I've been interested in for years tonight and even made out with her at the end of the night. My career is taking off too. Everything is going so well and makes it so much easier to get over her, BUT...I was in love with her. Plain and simple. Hints of those terrible feelings about what she did to me still come up. Daily. I've just learned to let them effect me less and less, and focus on all of the success and happiness that awaits me. Well, this process is complicated by her need to still contact me. After the breakup, I went NC for a few days. Then I contacted her. Screamed, name called, etc. Then I went NC for 1.5 weeks only to break it again. That time, it was a weird, 1 hour conversation about my newfound happiness, general disappointment in her, sparse angriness on my part, and lots of grief, sadness, regret, and sorrow on her part. Of course, during all my spurts of NC she's tried to call me or she's texted me. It's been almost another week of NC since we last spoke, but she's definitely trying to put an end to that. Last night I got a "I think about you every second" text. Deleted it. Tonight, right after my date nonetheless, I got a "F**k I miss everything about you" text. Deleted it. Then I got a phone call and I ignored it. I just feel like I have nothing to say to this girl. She lied, cheated, and broke my heart. There's absolutely nothing that can be done to fix that. It sucks because when she contacts me, no matter how much I've moved on, no matter how good things are, it triggers certain feelings and I get weak. I think about texting back or answering the phone. I'm proud of myself for realizing that it's useless and not giving in the past couple nights. I just need support from you LoveShackers to let me know that I'm really doing the right thing. Thanks.
Author Bleed Internal Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Wow. Just had a dream that I broke NC and I woke up so mad at myself. I'm so glad it wasn't true!
boogieboy Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Youre doing good. Youre doing the right thing. Your ex's texts will start to get more pathetic. Shes only tryin to rope you in, just to break you again. She will try to step it up and say things to make you answer her, but know that none of it is true. Its eating her up inside that you can ignore her. The more she turns up the BS, the more pathetic she will look to you, and the less you will want to answer her. Focus on your new girl. You have a clean slate to work with there. It wont take much longer for your ex to fade away in your mind. Trust me on that. You have nothing to say to her now, answering her wont change anything.
Author Bleed Internal Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Youre doing good. Youre doing the right thing. Your ex's texts will start to get more pathetic. Shes only tryin to rope you in, just to break you again. She will try to step it up and say things to make you answer her, but know that none of it is true. Its eating her up inside that you can ignore her. The more she turns up the BS, the more pathetic she will look to you, and the less you will want to answer her. Focus on your new girl. You have a clean slate to work with there. It wont take much longer for your ex to fade away in your mind. Trust me on that. You have nothing to say to her now, answering her wont change anything. Great news. I looked at some of her new Facebook pics through a friend's account (blocked her from mine) and I really have no feelings towards her. She just looked sad and pathetic.
bella16 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I just feel like I have nothing to say to this girl. She lied, cheated, and broke my heart. There's absolutely nothing that can be done to fix that. It sucks because when she contacts me, no matter how much I've moved on, no matter how good things are, it triggers certain feelings and I get weak. I think about texting back or answering the phone. I'm proud of myself for realizing that it's useless and not giving in the past couple nights. I just need support from you LoveShackers to let me know that I'm really doing the right thing. Thanks. You are doing a great job! NC is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through...its like fighting an addiction. Do not call yourself weak, because from what you are telling us...you are more strong than anything by ignoring her, and going about your life. Keep up the great work!
boogieboy Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Great news. I looked at some of her new Facebook pics through a friend's account (blocked her from mine) and I really have no feelings towards her. She just looked sad and pathetic. BTW someone on this board said looking at your ex's website pics and status' is like breaking NC, because it is a form of contact for you, so dont go back to look at her facebook. You could go back there one day and see something that will set you back.
Phateless Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Call your wireless company and have her phone number blocked. You need to enforce NC somehow.
Author Bleed Internal Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 This is so inspiring. Thank you. I'm doing well but it can be so difficult when a little bit of love for that person still lingers. With that said, the reality is: I'll never forgive her. Contact would be useless. I'll continue with NC and moving on. Why did she have to cheat on me in the first place and f**k everything up?!
Phateless Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Why did she have to cheat on me in the first place and f**k everything up?! She did you a favor. To this day I still maintain that my ex dumping me after 4.5 years was the best thing that ever happened to me.
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