imhurt Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Okay, I am here AGAIN! I have been talking to my ex daily now...I broke it off with him about a month ago now, we did NC for 1 week then I did it, I texted him...stupid I guess, but anywho, we have been talking and even spent the last weekend together in a hotel, the entire time. We had a great time. So then I bring up the same old issues...I can't help it. I don't want a part time BF, thats exactly the opposite of what I want. He says he wants to be with me, says he is indifferent towards me to make me feel what he felt. Could this be true? Do I make it easy by continually telling him how I feel and demand an answer? I really just want him to decide if he wants to be with me or not...either way would be easier than what I am going through...but he says he will marry me someday, but he is so indifferent, I mean like not calling, and blah blah blah...when were together he is all about me, but it's like he gets alone and I don't exist. I was close with his family, now we sneak around, like he doesn't want them to know.....How do I just stop? What do I do? I want to either go to the next step or move on...I feel like I am forcing him to put a ring on my finger, am I? I want to eventually get married, and he says or said the same. I really dont know if I am being fair. I am just not patient and I'm worried he is just keeping me close til something better comes along or for just when he is lonely:( How do I know if he is sincere? How can we go to even smaller steps? Any thoughts????
borbiusle Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Sorry to say, but I think he's somehow embarrassed to be with you but you're all he's got till something else comes along, so he keeps you around to fulfill his basic needs.
boldjack Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 OP, maybe he doesn't trust you. You broke it off, not him. If you can do it once, you can do it again. Maybe he needs to see real committment on your part. You should try to communicate to him that you can be trusted, emotionally, and that you are in it for the long haul. IMO
Author imhurt Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Sorry to say, but I think he's somehow embarrassed to be with you but you're all he's got till something else comes along, so he keeps you around to fulfill his basic needs. Thats not very nice:( Well I am sure he doesn't want to admit to his fam and friends he is giving me another shot, being that I left him, but really, I never wanted it to be over for good, I wanted to ee what we wanted from each other, he is having a hard time trusting me...but he still saves his weekends for me, and he even pays for my insurance still and has paid some of my bills for me... I know where he is coming from, but damn, cant he just decide to make it or break it? What is so difficult??
boldjack Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 What have you done, to reassure him and show trustworthiness? I think that you two need to communicate better.
EmptyPromises Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Thats not very nice:( Well I am sure he doesn't want to admit to his fam and friends he is giving me another shot, being that I left him, but really, I never wanted it to be over for good, I wanted to ee what we wanted from each other, he is having a hard time trusting me...but he still saves his weekends for me, and he even pays for my insurance still and has paid some of my bills for me... I know where he is coming from, but damn, cant he just decide to make it or break it? What is so difficult?? truth hurts.
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