LisaUk Posted August 13, 2009 Posted August 13, 2009 thank you so much. i do know my flaws but, as you said.. those personality traits do seem very much so addicting and they're extremely hard to break but, i realize that without some type of change.. my marriage is doomed, and i think any relationship afterwards will be, as well. i'm contemplating on whether or not i should continue counseling. up until now, we have been going in as a couple.. and i would feel bad going back, basically confirming to her that her help has failed us.. plus, i don't want to be persuaded into going back. i'm looking moreso for advice on how to heal myself, and be complete by myself.. and maybe eventually my husband and i will choose to work our marriage out. i have until monday to decide. The MC didn't fail you, you already admitted you were palying games with your H, MC only helps if both people are being open and honest. Lovebubble, perhaps I am missing something here but I thought you wanted to be with your H? If that is the case, please stop playing games, tell him the truth of what is going on in your head and seek counselling individually for your own issues. The man clearly still loves you, otherwise why would he come over and why would he care if you are cheating. He has had enough of the games, but he is clearly suffering. Please do the right thing here and tell him the thruth about what is going on. Perhaps then, he will be willing to work on the marriage with you?
Author lovebubble Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 The MC didn't fail you, you already admitted you were palying games with your H, MC only helps if both people are being open and honest. Lovebubble, perhaps I am missing something here but I thought you wanted to be with your H? If that is the case, please stop playing games, tell him the truth of what is going on in your head and seek counselling individually for your own issues. The man clearly still loves you, otherwise why would he come over and why would he care if you are cheating. He has had enough of the games, but he is clearly suffering. Please do the right thing here and tell him the thruth about what is going on. Perhaps then, he will be willing to work on the marriage with you? lisa, i do want to work it out.. but, i know we both need time. i don't want to be forceful. i know he still loves me, and he knows i still love him.. and i believe things will work themselves out within due time.
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