Cinnamon Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I am curious what white lies are OK during casual dating. What type of a lie is a deal-breaker? What about the following lies: 1. About hobbies/likes/dislikes 2. Daily activities (What did you do last night?) 3. Age 4. Health 5. Your intentions in a relationship 6. Reasons to cancel a date or to be unavailable 7. About your partners' looks and sexual performance
Soul Bear Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 WHAT?! Is this a serious question? you don't EVER lie... Lies come round and bite you in the arse The truth sets you free
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Based on your list, I would not be okay with lies about 3 or 5. 4, 6, and 7 would be circumstantial...meaning it would only bother me in certain instances. Like, for example - the health one. If it's STD health - that's definitely not okay to lie about. And if their doctor says they have one week to live, I'd like to know that, too - but wouldn't necessarily fault them for not telling me if we're only casual. 1 and 2 - I don't really care unless they claimed to like a hobby I like just to get close.
browneyedgirl28 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I am curious what white lies are OK during casual dating. What type of a lie is a deal-breaker? What about the following lies: 1. About hobbies/likes/dislikes 2. Daily activities (What did you do last night?) 3. Age 4. Health 5. Your intentions in a relationship 6. Reasons to cancel a date or to be unavailable 7. About your partners' looks and sexual performance Why would you lie at all. Even if its casual dating, its not right. The only one that might be reasonable is #6.
Thaddeus Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 About hobbies/likes/dislikes - Nope. You can't discover how truly compatible you are if you b.s. your way through what you do and don't like Daily activities (What did you do last night?) - Generally, no, though if you were out with on another date and have made it clear that you are multi-dating, you can tell him you had a date but no need to go into details. Age - Definitely not Health - Most definitely not Your intentions in a relationship - Definitely not Reasons to cancel a date or to be unavailable - Definitely not About your partners' looks and sexual performance - Definitely not
monkey00 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Anyone who is desperate or doesn't have standards for themselves would lie on dates. Karma, what goes around comes around. A person that's well-rounded, has hobbies, goals, interests, well-traveled, fun to be around, well-off, etc. is very interesting to begin with. I don't think that person should have any reason to lie. And if you're not well-rounded/interesting, then get with the program.
Soul Bear Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 It's a shame cos the OP looks really pretty oh well
dreamergrl Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Why would you want to start out with lies? A casual relationship could turn into more. Then you need to explain this and that. Then there's lack of trust. People don't generally like lies, white or not.
carhill Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Well, OP, pick the ones that you'd most like to hear and go with those
missdependant Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I love how everyone acts like they never lie! Perhaps the biggest lie is saying that you don't ever lie.. or acting like you never lie or haven't ever told a lie. I'm going to go out on a limb and be honest here. Yes. I have lied before. Not about anything major. But I have lied before, and I tell white lies about certain situations. Not the ones you listed... but small things. I pretend to be excited when his favorite football team wins even though I hate football! I pretend to enjoy everything he cooks for me.. because I'd rather not hurt his feelings. I pretend that baseball games are fun, because it won't kill me to watch a baseball game for a couple hours with him. That's about as big as the lies get.
lucy9216 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I would not suggest to lie about these things when you are getting to know someone, because you are providing a false impression of yourself right from the start. The list you mention are not little white lies at all, a little white lie would be saying that you definatly turned off the curling iron, when infact you know that you didn't. I myself have pursuaded somewhat of a small lie on the last few dates I went on. I was asked how long since I have been raising my kids on my own, my response has been " I am used to it by now " I am not technically lying but I am just not providing all of the information. The reason I do this is because my ex and I broke up only 4 months ago and I don't want them to know just how fresh it still is right away.
Recommended Posts