Soul Bear Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 So I have been in touoch with my ex-ex for about 3 months now (she initiated contact after she heard I had been dumped, before that, it was random emails every 6 months or so to just check in) The calls and txt's from her are becoming more frequent, first it was every few weeks, now its every couple of days...in fact, the last 5 days she has been in touch every day a few times via sms and a few phone calls. Anyway- today she txt's me 4 or 5 times and i only reply once, tonight she calls me and we talk for about 40 mins, and I GOT A SINCERE APOLOGY!!! I told her she has no idea how long I have waited for that. She said she didnt know what she was thinking.....no sh*t sherlock! Also says one day my recent ex will look back as she did and think 'I WAS SO STUPID, WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING!' (that would be nice, but I wont hold my breath) Tells me she is looking fwd to moving down here and cant wait for our meet up, wants to spend a solid 2 or 3 days with me and catch up....go for dinner etc etc.....i think i can see where this is going The conversation was getting a bit raunchy, as she kept bringing up good old times...in and out of the bedroom.....tells me she wishes I was there to hug her and lay next to her.blablabla So I cut the call short and she sends me a random txt about her laying in bed thinking of me and she is going to sleep now... This is so messed up. I wouldnt get back with her, but hey, I cant say im not enjoying all the attention!! We talked about our relationship, our past relationships with our recent ex's (her being the dumper and me being the dumpee) and it was pretty refreshing after so long to here her say she ****ed up. We even talked about us dating other people now that we were both single again, although I know there will be some fun to be had here;) ANyway, we all get an apology most of the time, eventually, so just move on with your life and live it up in the meantime
hoping2heal Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 This is so messed up. It sure is. But the reason I'm thinking, and the reason you're thinking are probably different. I wouldnt get back with her, but hey, I cant say im not enjoying all the attention!! Okay, the only thing worse than exes who lead us on, and use us for an ego boost, and act like completely selfish jerks ; are people who know how bad it hurts and do it to someone else. Have you not been through a lot? Why do you want to do that to another person? I don't care if it feels good for the moment, you want to do something that feels good? Get a massage. Don't toy with someone else's head just so your own ego can spring a boner. Have you learned nothing? I mean NOTHING? We talked about our relationship, our past relationships with our recent ex's (her being the dumper and me being the dumpee) and it was pretty refreshing after so long to here her say she ****ed up. We even talked about us dating other people now that we were both single again, although I know there will be some fun to be had here Seriously, please stop being gross. It's gross. ANyway, we all get an apology most of the time, eventually, so just move on with your life and live it up in the meantime Yes, this has happened to me a lot. It's even like you; happened six years later. I was nothing less than honest though, and didn't allow the other party to go on stroking my ego while I played along. I made sure they knew where I stood from the start. I don't like being effed with, I wouldn't do it to someone else.
trueblue72ny Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 this made me think about some of my other ex gf's. and that is how i pretty much feel about all of them except maybe one. i can say that a number of my ex's have got back in touch with me years later. im not sure entirely what the reasons were. sometimes i heard from them when they were unhappy. and other times i have heard from them just to say hey. whatever the reason i was always like ehhhhh. i would blow them off, give short responses and show a general lack of interst, but yet they would still call. it just goes to show that no matter what you do if someone wants to be around you they will be. and it also reminds me that , nope, they have not forgot about me, or how to get in touch with me even after all this time.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Okay, the only thing worse than exes who lead us on, and use us for an ego boost, and act like completely selfish jerks ; are people who know how bad it hurts and do it to someone else. Have you not been through a lot? Why do you want to do that to another person? H2H- Obviously I didnt make it clear that we have both said, specificaly, that we are NOT going to get back together, but it would be nice to hang out and mess about. You really have the wrong end of the stick here. Reading my post back i can see why.
Author Soul Bear Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Although she hurt me when we broke up, she was nice to me, didnt lead me on, and was supportive of me. This helped ME to move on from that R...that's what led me to my recent ex...who broke up with me in an EXPLOSION of FIRE and ICE. The ex-ex She has made it clear, and so have I in our conversations that we are looking for other loves, and not to get back together for a relationship. So i really dont see the problem here. We both know we are ex's for a reason. We even talked about dating other people and how we have learned what values we look for. TrueBlue- Sometimes we can forgive for what happened WAY in the past if it was not to bad....our R was only 7 months long. That was 6 years ago
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