GeekGuy Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I have been dating an AMAZING guy for about two months now, and things are going extremely well. Aside from the fact that he works A LOT, and we only actually see each other once, maybe twice a week, he really is the perfect guy...and I like him enough to overlook his workaholic-ness. When we are together, I am the most serene and relaxed I have ever been. He makes me feel extremely happy and special any time I am with him or talk to him (we do talk every night on the phone). However, lately, when I am not with him, I am ALWAYS thinking about him, and my heart pounds harder and beats a little faster. I have honestly never been in love before (I am 24, but being a gay man, it's a little bit harder to find love), but could this be love sickness? I honestly do believe I am quickly falling in love with him, but I don't know how much more I can take of this constant nervous/anxious feeling I get when I think about him. I can only hope it means GOOD things, and if that is what I have to deal with to stay with him, then so be it, it would be more than worth it. Any thoughts? Thanks for reading!
Author GeekGuy Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Come on, guys...I know there are some wise ones out there...give me something!
Soul Bear Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 I think this is infatuation, and putting someone on a pedestal.
carhill Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 IMO, you have a really good emotional connection and I hope you can explore it and find compatibility. That's a really cool thing. Be aware, this is a prime time in your life for such things to happen, so I would counsel seeing it is one such potential for you rather than the be-all and end-all. That was a lesson I learned by painful experience, even though I'm glad I did. SoulBear named it correctly....pedestal-building.... The juxtaposition of serenity when together with anxiety when apart is a sign of emotional bonding. Here's a tip. When apart, if you feel particularly strongly, call him. Enjoy Lastly, talk about how you feel about each other. Being on the same page is as important as how you feel in your own skin.
Author GeekGuy Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 IMO, you have a really good emotional connection and I hope you can explore it and find compatibility. That's a really cool thing. Be aware, this is a prime time in your life for such things to happen, so I would counsel seeing it is one such potential for you rather than the be-all and end-all. That was a lesson I learned by painful experience, even though I'm glad I did. SoulBear named it correctly....pedestal-building.... The juxtaposition of serenity when together with anxiety when apart is a sign of emotional bonding. Here's a tip. When apart, if you feel particularly strongly, call him. Enjoy Lastly, talk about how you feel about each other. Being on the same page is as important as how you feel in your own skin. Luckily we have talked to each other already about how we feel about each other...He is not as verbally emotional as I am - I am more of a 'wear my heart on my sleeve' kind of guy whereas he expresses his feelings about me more with actions (cooking me dinner, giving me treats when he knows I've had a rough day at work, etc.)... but when he does verbally express his feelings about me, he really knows how to say just the right things that make my heart melt. I know I am still young, and I shouldn't treat this relationship as the be-all end-all, but it is kind of hard not to when this is guy is so great. Never has a guy made my heart pound so hard and has given me butterflies every time I see him.
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