jlaa29 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Okay so I'm new on here so here it goes - my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and one month. He's from Australia and I'm from the east coast of the States (about 10,000 miles apart). We met my first night out that I was on exchange in Aus for school. We were together for five months - then apart for four - together for two - apart for two - together for three - apart for two - together for 7 - and now we're apart again for 5 months (1 down so far, 4 to go). Everything is GREAT when we are together. We just lived together for the past 7 months and everything was amazing. The problem is was that last time we were supposed to be apart was supposed to be it for us - it had been so hard to even be apart for 2 months last time that it was unbearable/unthinkable to do it all over again. Unfortunately he wasn't able to get a visa over here (not that I feel here tried to hard)! and now we are stuck apart again. He is visiting for Christmas and then I am deciding if I am going to give up my new job which I'm supposed to be starting in January ($52,000 a year) and move away from my family for awhile. I'm leaning more and more towards moving but the more that that we are apart the more and more depressed I am becoming. We have done this before - as I've illustrated before - but it just keeps getting HARDER and HARDER. I feel like I am miserable and crying every day! It's hard to readjust being back home still (even though I've been back for a month now). I guess I kind of removed myself from my life here being away for the past 7 months. I don't know. I guess I'm just really SAD and I don't know how I'm going to get through these next four months....
jumi Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 first of all, massive ((hugs)), Im really sorry you are going through this challenge. i can relate to that feeling. when my boyfriend and I first met we had the whole summer together, then went off to different colleges about 100 miles apart. Anyway, I had such a miserable first semester I had no hope I could hold it together for the next semester. But over winter break I learned what I could from my decisions and mistakes and thought how to make it better. hopefully this will help you *know* that when you two are together, it is amazing and you are both happy. even if you have been apart for a couple months, the next time you get together is amazing and you are still in love. my point here is NOT to be afraid of losing him and not to be afraid of anything changing between you two on these separation periods. you know the amazing time you guys have together when you are with each other, so have no fear of those in between periods and just try to call upon those memories of when you were together. ask yourself, would you, without a doubt, be happy to share the rest of your life with him? if you can make it through this rough patch then you could have him every day for the rest of your life. That thought is what holds me together. if you really love this guy and he makes you happy, then don't let this slip through your fingers. be thankful for the amazing guy you have, i know how hard it is, but look forward to the future you guys could have together if you tough this out.
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