xXxshootingstarxXx Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Hi guys, Just wondering what your take on this may be... Yesterday I received an email out of the blue from my ex's mum, the last time she got in touch was about 4 months ago approximately. Bearing in mind, as far as i'm aware my ex has been living with his girlfriend for may be 7 or 8 months now so presuming he's very happy and in love with his girlfriend. I wish him the best. However, just slightly confused by this email though please read:- "Hello How are you doing? I am so happy because im now Part time I have started just this week im so happy! Instead of working nearly 40 hours I am now working 4 x 5 hour days. Feel like a huge weight has been lifted. Are you single? Hope your mum and dad are well Please pass on my best Love (ex's mum) xxxx" My logical side is telling me that my ex's mum would like me to be his son's girlfriend and is checking out like this to see if i'm still 'free'. However, I think she may have sent this without her son knowing it and and not particularly wanting her to do so. Which if i'm correct in this way of thinking then it is pretty selfish of her to behave like this as it has opened up an old wound again Any thoughts?! xXx
Jimmy's_Brother Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 You're right, your ex's mom is behaving selfishly. Clearly she does not care about the fact that writing you has re-opened old wounds. Do not respond. The mom is probably just as stupid and selfish as the ex.
hopesndreams Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Maybe it's the ex pretending to be his mom.
Jimmy's_Brother Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 That could be true. Seems more likely, actually. Do NOT play their stupid, selfish games. They are TOYING with you. You are just a TOY, not a real person.
Devil Inside Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 That seems really weird. All this talk and then just halfway through..."are you single." Don't respond.
Author xXxshootingstarxXx Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Thanks for your replies guys Maybe it's the ex pretending to be his mom. I know this is not true only because my ex's mum emails me from her works email address and they don't work at the same place. It's not very well written.....???? hmmmm Yeah she was never very good at writing emails if i'm honest. I know that when my ex split with me her last words were 'you are the perfect girl for my son'. She's very close to her son but since he's moved in with his girlfriend i'm thinking his mum will not see much of him anymore, whereas, when he went out with me (we didn't actually live together, just stayed over at each other houses)... We saw his mum regularly. That seems really weird. All this talk and then just halfway through..."are you single." Don't respond. Very odd - I totally agree, what is most annoying is I cannot just let it be. It'll run through my mind for a little while now just to try and work out that big question..... WHY??!!
utterer of lies Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 My logical side is telling me that my ex's mum would like me to be his son's girlfriend and is checking out like this to see if i'm still 'free'. However, I think she may have sent this without her son knowing it and and not particularly wanting her to do so. Which if i'm correct in this way of thinking then it is pretty selfish of her to behave like this as it has opened up an old wound again Her son told her he's unhappy with his current gf and his mother, remembering how she liked you, tries to fix his life for him.
Author xXxshootingstarxXx Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 Her son told her he's unhappy with his current gf and his mother, remembering how she liked you, tries to fix his life for him. Thanks utterer of lies for your take on this, it kind of gave me a 'ah-ha' moment ... Funnily enough it never even crossed my mind that my ex may actually be unhappy in his new relationship, I've just always presumed he's really happy with his life (which he may or may not be, who's to know?!). And obviously it's just your opinion and myself nor anyone else can tell me the exact reason why I have received the above email out of the blue... But it is a totally different take on this matter, so I thank you for that.
BackonTrack2 Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 the mom wants you back & she has reason to believe the son will take you back. communicate with the mom IF you want back in, otherwise ignore the email.
Author xXxshootingstarxXx Posted August 12, 2009 Author Posted August 12, 2009 the mom wants you back & she has reason to believe the son will take you back. communicate with the mom IF you want back in, otherwise ignore the email. Heey thanks for your take on it BackonTrack2, However, maybe his mum misses me being around more so than my ex himself?! He moved onto a new relationship so any feelings he may have had for me with have possibly died and been replaced by the new memories of his current gf?! Any thoughts on how you would respond back?! x
utterer of lies Posted August 12, 2009 Posted August 12, 2009 Any thoughts on how you would respond back?! If you want him back, you probably should write something like Hi, [insert work-blahblah small talk..] About the 'single'-question. If he wants to know, he can ask me in person. [bye] And if you don't want him back, it doesn't really matter what you write.
Author xXxshootingstarxXx Posted August 13, 2009 Author Posted August 13, 2009 If you want him back, you probably should write something like Hi, [insert work-blahblah small talk..] About the 'single'-question. If he wants to know, he can ask me in person. [bye] And if you don't want him back, it doesn't really matter what you write. I actually do want my ex back, but quite honestly it never crossed my mind that he would ever come back to me so even though it's what I want... I never imagined it may be 'possible'. However, I replied back to my ex's mum - the usual blah blah blah etc but also mentioned that I am single at the moment, very happy and enjoying myself <- right or wrong thing to say... I sent it. I had a reply back from his mum today, what do you make of this?!?... Hello Was so lovely to receive your e mail. The shifts I am on this week are fab as I start at 4.45 and finish at 9.45 Its great I get the whole day to myself. We are going to Wembly at the weekend to see U2!!!! We are making it a long weekend and staying over im so excited. Yes I am loving having more time with David although yesterday morning I put his wallet in the wash and he almost Got cross. I am loving our garden so much. Now that I am part time I can spend a little longer when I go cleaning You take care I wish you nothing but happiness xxxx This tells me his mum was only interested in knowing how I was doing for her own benefit. It kinda stamped on my heart a little I guess next time (if/when) I hear from her again I definitely know it's nothing to do with my ex *sigh*
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