Jaytb Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Lol, time to switch the question around. As a guy, I'll tell you what I think. You can't change them, they can only change themselves if they want to. I feel like I'm superficial. I mean, I just can't see myself dating a heavier girl. And honestly, I like the way Asians look. I'm dating an Asian right now. I do care about personality, which is one reason I'm with my girlfriend, but I feel somewhat bad for being selective about looks. Well what do you think? Am I superficial? I'm not as bad as other guys I guess, I mean I don't rate women on a scale of 1-10. And what do you think of superficial guys?
Thaddeus Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I just can't see myself dating a heavier girl. And honestly, I like the way Asians look. I'm dating an Asian right now. I do care about personality, which is one reason I'm with my girlfriend, but I feel somewhat bad for being selective about looks. Well what do you think? Am I superficial? I'm not as bad as other guys I guess, I mean I don't rate women on a scale of 1-10. And what do you think of superficial guys?I don't think that's superficial at all, any more than a woman wanting a man with a full head of hair or a certain height or pickle size. Some will differ, and that's their right of course, but you've got your own set of standards and there's nothing wrong with that.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 1. Goes to gym all the time. Check 2. Buys designer clothes. Check 3. Gets his hair styled regularly. Check 4. Buys mens fashion magazines. Check 5. Brings home a large paycheck Check 6. Wears carefully chosen cologne. Check 7. Can kill a bear with his hands. Check 8. Tries to make every thread a topic of conversation about himself. Check
sally4sara Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 I don't date men who cater ONLY to a type first and a connection through personalities second if ever. I understand having a preference. I have one too though it is pretty broad; dark hair. But I've still dated fairer haired men that I clicked with.
dreamergrl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Yeah.. a guy with no personality is not sexy at all.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 A superficial man is one who values the superficial as his top priority, sometimes even to the extent that nothing internal matters. Whether the OP or others fit into this category, only they know what and how they think. I can't read minds.
dreamergrl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 A superficial man is one who values the superficial as his top priority, sometimes even to the extent that nothing internal matters. Whether the OP or others fit into this category, only they know what and how they think. I can't read minds. Well why not? You're TBF, you're suppose to be able to do it all
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Well why not? You're TBF, you're suppose to be able to do it all Oops, I seem to have lost my ability to Vulcan mind-meld! :laugh:
dreamergrl Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Oops, I seem to have lost my ability to Vulcan mind-meld! :laugh: Damn, why do all the good super human powers go away? I wonder what mine is.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 Superficial men? Not a worry for me, I reckon. I'm pretty much invisible to those types. Thankfully.
Author Jaytb Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 1. Goes to gym all the time. Check 2. Buys designer clothes. Check 3. Gets his hair styled regularly. Check 4. Buys mens fashion magazines. Check 5. Brings home a large paycheck Check 6. Wears carefully chosen cologne. Check 7. Can kill a bear with his hands. Check 8. Tries to make every thread a topic of conversation about himself. Check Aaand I've got none of that down. lol. I guess I'll have to use a knife or a gun to take down a bear.
Author Jaytb Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 A superficial man is one who values the superficial as his top priority, sometimes even to the extent that nothing internal matters. Whether the OP or others fit into this category, only they know what and how they think. I can't read minds. yeah you can. Don't lie. And you're supposed to tell us what you think. Are we all superficial jerks or what?
Chicago_Guy Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 1. Goes to gym all the time. Check 2. Buys designer clothes. Check 3. Gets his hair styled regularly. Check 4. Buys mens fashion magazines. Check 5. Brings home a large paycheck Check 6. Wears carefully chosen cologne. Check 7. Can kill a bear with his hands. Check 8. Tries to make every thread a topic of conversation about himself. Check What's wrong with working out a lot and making a lot of money? I don't see why these are negative things for a single guy. The guys I know who don't work out end up wasting their time watching TV.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 yeah you can. Don't lie. And you're supposed to tell us what you think. Are we all superficial jerks or what? You don't seem to get how this poster works. Superficial women : that's ok. Superficial men : not ok. Preference for taller men : ok. Preference for younger women : not ok. My life is great : yours is not. My judgemental posts are ok : Yours are not. Etc. etc. It's like a machine. Easy way to get rid of this forum rash is to stick em on ignore otherwise it just drives you nuts.
Citizen Drawn Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 What's wrong with working out a lot and making a lot of money? I don't see why these are negative things for a single guy. The guys I know who don't work out end up wasting their time watching TV. Nothing at all. Not what I was saying.
Adunaphel Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 The main reason why I am glad I am not beautiful is that it is unlikely I'll ever end up with a superficial man. I genuinely hate them! But I do not think that having preferences makes someone superficial. My idea of a superficial man is someone who considers women who do not match his preferences somewhat less- worthy. I do not mind guys who date only women who look like models... I just feel sorry for them, they are missing out a lot, and for their partners, who become candidates for insecurity issues if they really like the guy. But if I hear someone calling an average women (or even an ugly woman, actually) "ugly"... well, to downplay it, it's a huge pet peve of mine.
Author Jaytb Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 You don't seem to get how this poster works. Superficial women : that's ok. Superficial men : not ok. Preference for taller men : ok. Preference for younger women : not ok. My life is great : yours is not. My judgemental posts are ok : Yours are not. Etc. etc. It's like a machine. Easy way to get rid of this forum rash is to stick em on ignore otherwise it just drives you nuts. lol I was asking for her judgmental post on me. Anyways, nice personal attack on TBF. I personally think she's great. Other posters, male and female, I see plenty of double standards, not to mention tons of victim mentality crap, and plenty more of the blame the gender game.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 yeah you can. Don't lie. And you're supposed to tell us what you think. Are we all superficial jerks or what?I think there are some superficial jerks, some balanced guys and some really great guys on LS. Beyond that, does it matter what I think? What matters are the people that you can connect with. My two cents on this.
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 lol I was asking for her judgmental post on me. Anyways, nice personal attack on TBF. I personally think she's great. Other posters, male and female, I see plenty of double standards, not to mention tons of victim mentality crap, and plenty more of the blame the gender game.Wow, Jaytb, thanks for that!
Author Jaytb Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 Wow, Jaytb, thanks for that! you're welcome. don't know why some feel the need to personally attack others like that. I thought this was Loveshack, can't we all love each other?
Trialbyfire Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 you're welcome. don't know why some feel the need to personally attack others like that. I thought this was Loveshack, can't we all love each other?Kumbaya... So anyways, you know I don't care about personal preferences. Everyone is entitled to them.
Isolde Posted August 11, 2009 Posted August 11, 2009 The main reason why I am glad I am not beautiful is that it is unlikely I'll ever end up with a superficial man. Actually, superficiality isn't just a looks thing...it goes deeper than that... and sometimes superficial men are so superficial they don't want to date someone as "pretty" as them! Jaytb, to answer your question, we all have some degree of this. I'm a bit overly prone to liking handsome guys (though I certainly never gravitated towards "perfect" Jude Law types), so this is something I recognize in myself and am trying to lessen to a degree. So I sympathize with people who feel a little bad about it too. The truth is--most people are attracted to those that more or less match them, people they feel comfortable with. I think that's most likely always the best thing. That's not superficial; that's human. I think superficial is either when you place more emphasis on material tangible things than actual feelings--or when you're trying to compensate for something you don't have. If you're feeling the way you think you should, you're probably good.
Author Jaytb Posted August 11, 2009 Author Posted August 11, 2009 Kumbaya... So anyways, you know I don't care about personal preferences. Everyone is entitled to them. yeah indeed. Well I told my girlfriend a while ago that she is my every preference in one lookswise. She said she kind of doesn't care much about looks (and doesn't care how much I weigh haha). She kind of lamented that if she didn't look the way she does I would less likely be interested in her. Well then again, if I didn't have my personality, she wouldn't be interested in me haha.
infjer Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 i read a post one here somewhere about a man who married a girl when she was in her mid 20s. she weighed 115 lbs and went to the gym all the time. his complaint was that after 11 years she weighed around 125 and had a little cellulite - but still went to the gym. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! THAT is the type of superficial guy i can't stand. to me, preferences are different than that. if your only concern that your girl is going to get older and eventually gain a little weight, then you shouldn't be in a serious relationship or marry her. cause it's going to happen (to both of you) and it's only going to make her feel bad about herself and resent you.
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